Struggling First time csection mama.

I’m sorry you feel that way! What do you think is preventing you from connecting with her?

@Lydia I’m on medicine that I can’t feed her naturally so I feel like I can’t nurture her how I was made too. Even though I am connecting but sometimes when I cry I am not as present and miss that I still am connecting. It’s hard to explain. I’m thankful for formula. It’s just bc it’s not “my” milk soothing her

Mama, I formula fed! There’s many ways to bond. Breastfeeding is not the only way. Heck, I have three kids that are happy and doing well. -Skin-to-skin -Talking and having a baby&mama conversation. -reading(I know not everyone cares nor understands) -walks -baths -brushing hair -…(THE LIST GOES ON..)

I stopped producing milk when Bub was 4 weeks he’s now 10 weeks and I felt the same way. I can assure you that you are doing everything right as she’s healthy and growing. When I started formula feeding my Bub I started laying down in my bed with him and I cuddle with him while he drinks his bottle and I talk to him. It’s helped me feel connected with my Bub and he’s happy while we do this. You’re doing a good job as a mum.

I’ve formula fed my baby since he was 4 days old. I promise you the bond is still just as incredible. Deep breaths momma, you got this!! I’ll add I was also an unplanned slightly emergent csection mom!

Thank you 😮‍💨😴

I’m also a c-section mama. My baby is now 10 weeks old. My milk didn’t come in until 5 days PP and by then my scar reopened and I was put on antibiotics which made my baby have an upset tummy so I had to stop breastfeeding. By the time i finished the meds my baby was bottle fed every day and we had real problems latching onto breast. I never ended up breastfeeding as I lost my supply. I have nothing now and I’m back on my period. Trust me I understand how awful it feels, how low, how everyone puts pressure on to breastfeed and when you can’t physically do it it feels like you’re doing a crap job. I’ve felt it all and cried for weeks with no support from anyone but what I can say is that it gets better. The way to see it is that you’re doing your absolute very best and your baby is thriving on formula. Nobody will ever ask your child when they are older whether they were breastfed, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you love your baby and you are there for them through everything.

In terms of connection as well - from experience, once you relax about not being able to breastfeed you will start enjoying all the other parts of your time together. I love looking my baby in the eyes as I bottle feed and I talk to him. I love love love bath time and giving him a little massage with baby oil after. I tell him stories of my own childhood and read him books. I don’t care if people say he’s too young to understand, he’s so happy when he hears my voice. We have little chats now as he makes little noises ❤️. I talk to him during nappy changes, we dance together to my favourite music and I love sharing that with him. Connection will come, just please don’t be hard on yourself ❤️

2x C-section mama here. You’re doing great mama keep taking your vitamins, stay hydrated and eat breastfeeding makes you super hungry it will feel like you’re eating too much in the beginning but your body needs the nutrients because whatever you digest goes back to your baby through the milk. Formula is fine while you pump to build a supply my 5 mom old uses a combo of formula and breastfeeding throughout the day 2 formula bottles during the morning nursing throughout the afternoon (because they tend to eat less when nursing) and breast milk bottle at night before bed

@Ewa do you mind if I reach out to you? I hardly know anyone who’s had a csection and would love to have a csection friend community.

@Meshia do you mind if I reach out to you? I hardly know anyone who’s had a csection and would love to have a csection friend community.