Second child

I can’t believe strangers on the internet made me think I was a bad mum for leaving my first baby to cry for one minute. It makes me so mad how full of anxiety I was! My second baby has fitted into our lives so well and he is so loved, but with the second there are times when they are left to cry and although the guilt is there I feel much more chilled out about this. The other day i said to my partner I haven’t been able to shower all morning the baby hasn’t stopped crying and he said ‘you know it’s not child abuse if you are in the shower and the baby starts to cry’ and it’s so true. For any first time mums that are overwhelmed with everything on the internet - you are doing your best and try to ignore all of the unhelpful advice ❤️

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Totally with you! The perfect parent brigade LOVE to pounce on you over stuff like this! What on earth are we supposed to do then? are we supposed to not shower? Not eat? Not use the toilet? Insane! I left my 11 month old in her playpen so I could go and get dressed, she cried but that's life! She was safe, therfore I feel no guilt!

For the first few weeks of my babies life I literally barely showed and barely ate .. for anyone who’s about to go through it, be kind to yourself !! X

I so wish someone had told me this when I first had my daughter - I spent the first 6 months feeling like a failure mom every time she cried, convinced she’d be traumatised for life if I risked stepping away to eat… she was clean, fed and safe, of course she was fine. There is so much nonsense on the internet, and first time mom’s are such an easy target for guilt.

Agreed, if baby has a clean nappy and is fed and safe then I don’t see the harm. But leaving them to cry for 5/10 minutes is a bit much for me personally. It’s definitely hard trying to find time to shower, eat, clean tidy

I’ve seen people on here say they literally stop mid poop because they hear their baby cry. They don’t shower for days on end. Won’t drive a car because of crying, the list goes on. I’m not trying to sound like an old wise woman, but my kids are a bit older now and I think it’s utterly ridiculous. Moms are humans too. If the baby is not in danger, a couple minutes of crying is NOT going to hurt them.

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