Is this abuse or am I overreacting?

Hey everyone 🌻❤️ I’ve found myself in a sticky situation and I’m worried. I’ve been told my marriage is very mentally abusive. I know it’s been crappy for a while but is it abuse? It started about 7 months ago and it started with things like him telling me he doesn't want me to do certain things. And then he started having these monumental meltdowns when I was heavily pregnant where he would scream and shout at me, hit himself, throw small objects and literally ripped a tshirt from his body in rage. I had to leave the house I didn't feel safe when he was like that. This was literally a week before my little one was born. And now, 5 months later, he's very verbally abusive (often when I’m holding our baby), gaslights and manipulates me. Has become physically aggressive in other ways (e.g. blocking me from leaving a room by putting his arm out in front of my face and hitting the wall next to me to stop me leaving). He hasn’t hit me but I feel like his behaviour is getting worse. He’s even admitted he says horrible things because he knows they’ll hurt me. There’s so much more that’s happened but we’d be here a long time if I wrote it all out. Is this domestic abuse or do I need to get a grip? Thank you in advance 💗