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Can anybody else relate??

Nothing could prepare me for being a single mom. I feel like I’m going through a million phases of grief, denial and acceptance. Grief from all the memories me and my previous partner created. Then denial- feeling like it’s all my fault and it could’ve been prevented if I didn’t speak up about my feelings and finally lose my cool. And then I get very brief moments of acceptance for a few days and feel like it is what it is I can’t change him. That’s not even the hardest part. The hardest part is the anxiety I feel thinking of the future that when I see him again it will all start flooding back and I’ll go into an emotional spiral. The thought of falling apart again like how I did when I first broke up with him when he’s nonchalant and probably could care less is scary. How do you even emotionally equip yourself for something like that? It’s only been a month since we broke up and I can’t think that far into the future.

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I feel you for real. The way things happened for me, while the feelings were all pretty much the same and I was spiraling, the order of events were a bit different. As I said I was spiraling for a good few months but I found out I was pregnant a while after we broke up (the fact the we were still living together and having sex didn't help my spiraling situation and resulted in pregnancy). But once I found out and new I was keeping the baby, its like a switch flipped. I realised my devastation of losing him didn't matter anymore and the only thing that mattered was the baby and doing what was best for her. So I packed up those feelings and put them away. And while it was a long road with my ex and sometimes hiding the fact that I was still pretty broken in front of him was difficult, we're now in a good place 3 ish years later. I don't know if my approach was exactly the healthiest thing I could have done but it did and still does work for me. So I guess you need to find what works for you.

Therapy could be really beneficial if you think that could be good for you.

Feel this :( My first I did everything completely by myself, dad came back after she was born and was a disaster situationship for a couple years. Pregnant with my second now with my bf of a few years and now at 6 months experiencing it all over again:( it’s so painful and confusing. A whole other side of these men you didn’t know possibly existed comes out. I’m sorry babe 😢

Single mum second time over , the grief has now set in. Was abandoned with my oldest thought I'd found my happily ever after with my two youngest ended up total sham and all being a nightmare now I feel as if I've been put through it a second time. It is horrible but I think in most cases my own anyway every single chance would have been given and every possible thing tried for months years even to salvage things.

Currently going through this now 😪, but I have to on

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