Resentment

It takes two people to make a baby, so two people should also be caring for that baby. I'd feel resentment too if I was in your shoes. My husband and I split the wake ups, and he works a full time job. Once he gets home, he helps me with the baby and changes most of the diapers. He definitely shouldn't be sitting on his phone all night. If you don't communicate with him about this your resentment will most likely keep building. I'm sorry you're going through this, postpartum is hard and women deserve support.

😮‍💨 this is deep maybe talk to your partner you obviously need help take a day for your self and treat your self to a nice spa day or nice bath meditate find something to bring out the inner peace/joy

@Skye I tried that. I said I feel so angry towards you because I have all of this going on and you only do this. And I asked him to wash the two dishes that can’t be put in the dishwasher and he wouldn’t do it. I know once the baby gets older and it gets easier again it won’t be a huge fight. But it feels so big right now. Makes me feel crazy 🫩

@Maya that is such good advice, thank you! I just have anxiety and my baby is breastfed so that makes it harder to get away because I don’t have a supply built up and I’d be a nervous wreck leaving the new baby with him and the two toddlers. Ugh.

He probably thinks because he goes to work he doesn’t have to do anything else but it doesn’t work like that! 50/50 at all times get him told and put your foot down

I have so been there… my advice and opinion is a very honest conversation. But that is really unacceptable. You didn’t make those baby’s by yourself, you shouldn’t be supporting them, caring for them, and doing everything in between by yourself. If it doesn’t change ( this is my personal experience results) it will eventually explode and come crashing down. (Again, what happened with me. So it may not go like that for you. But if I don’t express my anger and be heard with lasting results I will either leave or explode) 🤯 Good luck 🤞🏻🙌🏻

Whew I understand so maybe doing something at home while baby is asleep if you can’t talk to your partner so you guys can come together to figure a plan for whatever it is then you guys should not be together that’s unhealthy you shouldn’t be the one doing all the work he should see how tired you are and if not just talk with him in case he haven’t noticed people be so caught with their lives they forget about the significant other that maybe going through something aswell

Girl you better than me I would’ve been snapped! He’s being so inconsiderate of you and everything you’re going through. Express this to him before it goes too far.