How to know

The other person may say things like: - no one cares about you (not even your friends/family) - I’m the only person that will ever love you - no one else will ever want to be with you - you should be happy I decided to be with you - if you leave me you’re going to be alone forever - they might make comments about your appearance - they may gaslight you/make you feel crazy

If you have to ask you most likely are, if they say things that hurts ur feelings regularly, if they make little comments that make u insecure, if they make u seem like the bad guy in every argument and alwasy turn it back on you. Of generally most days ur down, hurt, don't feel heard or seen, overlooked, undervalued, under appreciated, feel guilty like ur a terrible partner ur most likely in a emotionally/mentally abusive relationship x

Thank you I kinda guessed if I’m having to ask the question then I think I am in one, a lot of my family have started saying how awful he is that he puts me down in front of everyone and doesn’t care definitely feeling crazy and looking back and wondering how long I’ve let this go on for 😭😔

Really sorry ur going through this I've been there, it's never ur fault so don't think negatively of urself, feel free to drop me a message if u need someone to talk to x