Potty training woes

Maybe he isn't just ready?

Yes 😭 like he can tell me AFTER he pees or poops that he needs a diaper change. However still can’t tell when he needs to go. He will go on the potty though. He’ll almost always wait to poop in his underwear even after he was just sitting on the potty. Im at a loss lol

This was me with my son. You need to let him be in underwear or he won’t get the hang of understanding the potty. There’s going to be hell of a lot of accidents but that’s how they learn. We’ve been doing it for a few months and he’s just getting the hang of it now it all takes time lovely. I understand the frustration though it is tough with boys ❤️

It takes time for them to go from understanding "I peed" to "I'm peeing" and then "I need to pee". Highly recommend the Oh Crap method and taking a 3 day period to test out if they are ready.

Set aside a few days at home, put the potty in the living room so he can see it and take off his nappy, let him be bottomless, that's what i did with my son first day or two was difficult because he would get upset of having to do something new and learning what being wet was all about but by day three he was using the potty, the connection of going to the toilet and sitting on the potty isn't there yet, when he's naked and starts having an accident you have to be on the ball pick him up really quickly and put him on the potty and then cheer him on for the wee that does make it in there, when he stands up show him, point to his wee, "yes!! You did wee wee in potty, good job" high fives, big hugs make a massive fuss each time and just repeat this over and over he will get there x

I would maybe change up your approach. The Dr. Becky guide was really helpful when I potty trained my son and it was free to download when I used it last year. You’re still leading the way with the way you’re approaching it rather than it being child led. With my son we just did underwear (or you can do naked) and carried the little potty to every room we were in. When they start to pee you pick them up as fast as you can and sit them on the potty to finish. Their brain will start to make the connection but you have to be ok with accidents in the beginning especially. I wouldn’t take him to sit on the potty at designated times or try to force him to drink on the potty. He won’t learn the signals his body is sending when he needs to go. You can also make a big deal and say “oh! I feel the feeling inside me that I need to go pee! I’m going to go right to the bathroom now that I feel this feeling!”

And once you’re fully ready it’s important to get rid of diapers completely so it won’t be confusing for them. Pull ups at naptime and overnight is fine of course.

@Amber so much this!!! I swear kids now are just a different breed

@Aurélie he’s almost 5 years old. I tried the wait till he’s ready approach but he is the most obstinate kid on the planet

@GMF so do I hide the pull ups out of sight so he doesn’t see them but I’ll still need them for bedtime?

Yeah, you could just keep them out of sight. I always explained to my son that we use the pull ups only for when he’s asleep because when he’s sleeping he might not feel that feeling in his body that he needs to go. It’s never been confusing for him. He’s been daytime potty trained since last June when he was 2.5 and he still needs the pull ups overnight.

You need to stop using diapers otherwise he’s not gonna learn x

My sons 3 and we put the pull up on him at night and told him that was the last 1 and in the morning he will have 2 use the potty until we get some. So we put the potty in the hall way and left his bottom half naked.. he got up and went himself and we celebrated really extra so he would be proud to do it again. At night we put 1 on him but he doesn't no where they are and soon as he's awake we take it off and back to the potty. It's been about 2 weeks and he has had accidents but it's all part of the learning