Failure

I feel like a failure as I didn't stick up for my baby. A friend was touching my infants mouth to see if he was hungry. I was so angry she would put her fingers on his mouth, and I wanted to say something, but I didn't. Now, I am replaying it over and over in my mind and feel like I'm not good enough for him. I am a failure. What kind of mother am i going to be if I can't tell someone what is best for my child. How can I be better

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You learn how you feel now and you say something next time.

Aww you are not a failure at all! It probably took you off guard and you weren’t expecting it! It probably happened so fast. Don’t beat yourself up!! You are a great mom and care so much 🩵

Practice!! You don't need to explain yourself so practice a few simple sentences like "please stop doing that, it makes me uncomfortable" or "it's not sanitary for baby". I struggle with confrontation but remember it's not confrontation unless they react in a negative way in which case it's a them problem not a you problem. You aren't a failure, you were caught off guard because why would anyone be doing what she was doing!! Now you know people are ridiculous so you'll be more prepared next time!

I was worried I wouldn’t be able to stick up for my son as well when it came to things like touching/kissing him. While I was pregnant everyone told me it will be easy, you won’t even think about it, your mom instincts will kick in. And I’ll tell you it wasn’t easy. I’m not normally one to speak up so it wasn’t easy, it was quite hard when he was a newborn, you’re not a failure, you just need to practice!

Baby will be fine. You learned and will be better able to speak up in future when it’s most important

You were probably in shock 😳

you’re not a failure, the fact that you’re so upset with yourself now just shows how much you care about your little one 🫶🏻 remember to be kind to yourself xx

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