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Is anyone else's baby just whinging all day no matter what?

She is a very high needs baby and has very vivid emotions. When she's happy, she is a real ray of sunshine. Sadly though, she's only happy maybe 5% of the time. Other than that, she is just complaining, moaning, whinging, crying all day no matter what I do. I feel I've sacrificed so much of myself, including my basic needs, to try and ensure she has the best, but it feels like a slap in the face when I'm skipping breakfast because she needs to be held, and then she's just complaining regardless. I'm neglecting my own needs and putting all my energy into making her happy, only for her to be endlessly whinging no matter what. And this is after ruling out hunger, nappy, tiredness, teething, boredom etc. I feel she's missing milestones because she's spending all her time complaining instead of playing and developing. Is anyone else's baby just the epitome of misery and frustration all day long?

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Yeah my boy dosnt babble much because he just moans and says mmmmmm

Wow the wording of this is really sad sounds like your precious little one is just being a normal gorgeous baby. It can get really hard maybe ask for some support from partner, family or friends so you can take a break? Or maybe speak to a professional about how your feeling

@Stephanie, unfortunately, I do not have a support network. All of my family are in a different country, and I do not have any friends where I live, or any social connections. My partner is a big reason why I'm struggling with depression and feelings of worthlessness. He gives me a hard time for struggling with this on my own everyday. I've also tried to get support from so many different organisations but no one takes me seriously and they just try and fob me off. I've actively sought support, but I never recieve it. I'm struggling on my own, and I feel so guilty that my baby is just miserable all the time, no matter what I do.

I've only had 2 breaks since being a mum, and both were cut short after an hour or two because partner didn't want to cope on his own for just an hour or two. He however gets breaks regularly for hours at a time and has even started and finished a game in this time, yet he complains he doesn't have enough time for games...

My girly went through a stage of this and it stopped after a few weeks. I got told they get cranky when going through big leaps. The past couple of days my daughter has gone back to being moany but if you want to speak about it feel free to message me! I promise it does get easier x

I could have written this myself. You are not alone.

Hi lovely, yes my little girl is the same. Very high needs and has been since birth. Same as you, when she is happy she is funny and gorgeous and lovely but you have to work so hard for it. I feel like I give her 110% of me all the time and it’s still never enough. She needs constant stimulation and attention. She hates being contained in a pram or car seat. Her reactions to things are very intense, cries very easily which escalates to screaming and is very hard to soothe. Message me if you would like to, we have to support each other xx

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