Do I sound stuck up?

Oh don’t it winds me right u. We went to a sensory class when my boy was 10 months old, a toddler in the group sitting right next so us, sharing the same toy, projectile vomited everywhere. Her mother said “aw she was the same last night poor thing” WHY DID YOU BLOODY BRING HER THEN!!! There were tiny babies as young as 8 weeks in that group for fucks sake. Anyway, me and my partner caught it and were too unwell to look after our little boy for days and days, all because of one selfish twat

I agree . I’ve missed last two weeks as I didn’t want to make other babies ill

Shouldn’t be spreading common colds for fun @Kath. It’s different if it’s daycare and a necessity, but you’re keeping the cold going around just for fun. You’re the problem.

This is the reason I have never taken my girl to a baby group. People are selfish x

I don’t find it to be stuck up at all It’s common courtesy to stay home when sick I hated people who brought their kids to school sick when I was a teacher. It’s not fair to the child and not fair to anyone else around them I avoid the public during October to April

My kids (daughter was 2 months old at the time) got RSV because a mom brought her obviously ill kid to an indoor playground

This is not stuck up to want to keep your baby safe and I'd be the first to tell someone they're stuck up if they are😂 I'd never take my baby around other children if he was poorly!

I agree if it's genuine sickness, but I've gotten bad looks because my kid has bad allergies 🤷🏻 also, sometimes symptoms persist after you're no longer contagious, so they might actually be cleared to socialize

I feel the same way with daycare. Both my kids just got over walking phenomena, and it was awful. They spent all day at children's on IV fluids and antibiotics. My daughter has asthma and then got an upper respiratory infection, and then during that caught walking phenomena. And it made her so poorly. Then I got sick as well. So you're not stuck up. Don't bring your kids anyway if they are sick. Just don't.

If people saw my girl and the way her nose was running at the moment they would think she was sick 😅 she isn’t sick, she’s had the same runny nose for 2 weeks and absolutely zero other symptoms. I don’t know if it’s teething or allergies but she’s not sick so we have been attending all our groups

The incubation time for most colds and bugs is 3-4 days. After that it's fine. But if the child is still visibly sick more than just a tiny sometimes cough or a sniffle then stay home. I attend baby groups 4-5 times per week and that's the general rule of thumb. Alot of babies will keep a light cough for 1-2 weeks but be healthy otherwise. Also age appropriate groups - aim for groups which have a 0-6m (newborn to sitting) class. Especially if you have a new baby, most of the other mums will be hyper worried. 6-12m (sitting to first steps) which is best for older babies who have developed a bit of an immune system. Most classes anti-bac after every session. But don't take a sick baby to class.

Depends on the sickness and age of the children. If I kept my daughter in for a runny nose we wouldn't have gone anywhere with other kids around all winter 😂 For meeting up with people I know I do give them the choice, some are more concerned about a bit of snot than others but the vast majority of people I know (including myself) are happy to meet up when our children have basic colds. But anything else, sickness a temperature, rash etc I keep her home. If I knew there would be newborns/young babies in a group I'd be more careful, but I don't go to any groups with my 2 year old that have babies in too.

@Rachel im glad you live in a different country than me with that mindset

@Shore to be honest I'm surprised at your mindset but it's interesting to hear other people's opinions! Like I say most people I spend time with are happy to risk a little cold in order to see friends and have fun together, as am I. I only have one friend who's really concerned about germs and stuff and I respect her by staying away if mine has anything. She doesn't go to any groups either because she knows the risks! Idk I just think it's a bit of a weird attitude to never want your child to get sick if they're generally healthy. When I go out places I do it with the understanding that there is possibly going to be someone there with some kind of illness and in my opinion I'd rather risk a few bugs then never go anywhere. If my child has something serious then I wouldn't risk passing it on but there are plenty of people out there less careful about that than me 🤷🏼‍♀️If we're going on holiday or a birthday or something is coming up we tend to avoid busy places and skip nursery.

Me and my daughter go to 6 playgroups a week. There is sometimes kids there coughing etc, but when i get a cough personally it lingers for like a month! So i don’t judge the mums as i don’t know all the information. My daughter also randomly throws up (more of a digestive issue than an illness, luckily mostly happens at nighttime so never have been at a playgroup with her throwing up) My mindset is kids get sick & im not going to worry about going out the house with my toddler to prevent illnesses as its just an unfortunate part of life. It also strengthens immune systems in the long run. Saying that my daughter hardly ever gets ill! Im not a clean freak and we are always surrounded by other kids. Were as my sister is a clean freak & she always avoids playgroup and busy places with lots of kids and her little boy has caught alot more illnesses than my little girl. Sometimes its just unavoidable in my eyes. Newborn stages defo more reason to be alot more careful though!

@Rachel there's a difference from a runny nose and visibly sick though. Ive seen parents bring their kids to daycare with visbly sick symptoms and the kids just look miserable. I also send my kids with runny noses because my kids have awful allergies. But there's a huge difference from a runny nose to visibly sick

How have 12% voted for you’re stuck up????? I guess they’re the ones that take their sick kid to baby classes and out and about 😅

@Carol💗💙 right and I've said I don't take mine if it's anything more serious, but I know I can't control what other people do so if I want to go to groups/out to play I take the risk that mine will get sick. But I've been told in these comments that even taking them out with a runny nose is terrible so there's a definitely a scale on what different mums think is "sick" so really you can't win.

It’s the worse. There’s plenty of other things you can do with your child than attend classes when you’re going to potentially make other babies unwell too.

@Rachel a runny nose to me doesn't always mean sickness. So I don't see anything wrong with that. If I kept my kids home every time they had a runny nose, we wouldn't have a life. I live in a pollen rich state.

Honestly this is why I had all my babies wait till at least a year or more to really socialize. I would have like a kiddo or two around the same age as mine so we can meet up to parks when no one’s really there and that helped so much bc LORDDDDDD

We all have to avoid playgroups because of you “a cold isn’t sick” people. You are the WORST. The reason this shit keeps going around.

@Shore you will never stop colds going around. We’ve been attending baby groups since my girl was 6 weeks old and she has had 2 colds in her 8 months of attending. Plenty of babies attend with a little cold. Adults spread them too 😱

You can’t stop common colds but you don’t have to go to baby classes if your child has a cold - there’s plenty of other places to take them 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Dana some of us assumed she is a bit like Shore and think a runny nose is a reason to never let your kid out anywhere. These posts always vague af, so I assume OP considers a runny nose to be an illness or assumes because a kid is still coughing they're still contagious

I agree with you, but kids are always sick, Alway rumny nose with lots of kods 😢😢😂.but my daughter is better now that she goes to home daycare 😋

I totally agree with you… I think it’s completely irresponsible. I have chronic illnesses that put me at higher risk than the general public when it comes to things like the flu etc, but I’m not special and so many children will have vulnerable people living in their homes, whether that is mum or dad or grandparents, passing on sickness could be detrimental to others.

@@Lauryn woof. You could stop it yourself

I get it, but at the same time, illness is apart of life, can’t avoid it sometimes

@Shore lol you seem mature. I don’t take my baby if she is actually sick I was just pointing out that colds will always be going around 😂

We were sick as hell for 2 mo with back to back RSV, flu and then norovirus because other people bringing sick kids around. It sucked! And with a teething toddler and me being pregnant

@Rachel that is what the Uk Population are like but I do think its a bit selfish. Other people want to take their babies to classes too, and if they could trust other parents not to bring their kids if sick then they would be able to go. So it actually stops some babies being able to be socialised and get those experiences. What about children with immune conditions or parents with cancer etc should their kids not be socialised? It seems unfair. And also if everyone just kept their kids home when sick bugs wouldnt spread as much and then they wouldnt be so frequently sick in the first place. Your kids may have a runny nose most of the time but theyre catching that from another child each time! So if that child didnt come in your kid wouldnt have a runny nose lol chicken and egg!

@Lauryn look up the definition of maturity and recognize it you that is immature. Irresponsible and a need for instant gratification. You can wait it out and bring your kids to the play when they are well.

@Shiv I understand what you're saying and to be honest I used to have this attitude, my daughter actually had a host of issues when she was born and was very small, and even basic colds can and occasionally still exacerbate her reflux so I was worried about her catching things. But I know how the world works so if I didn't want her sick I wouldn't go places with other kids. Now she's had a bunch of things, particularly from her first winter in nursery, and it was tough to get through but now I know it's doing her good in the long run because she copes with colds so much better now, they don't faze her at all. I'd rather she gets things now than when she starts school and actually needs to be there to learn. I don't blame anyone for sending their (mildly) sick kid in to nursery if they're not feeling miserable because at the end of the day time off for dependants is unpaid, and adults don't stay home, they go to work sick, go out wherever, so you're just as likely to pick something up at the supermarket.

@Shore you clearly didn’t read my response. I don’t take my child if she is ill 🤦🏼‍♀️ She currently has a runny nose and has had it for 2 weeks, I’m not sure if it is teething or allergies but she is not ill so we will keep attending our groups thanks

Yeah I think it’s fair if your own child is sick, you keep them home 1) to help them rest and recoup and 2) to keep from spreading to others. However, a lot of people don’t do this and then your family happens to have contact with them. This can’t really be avoided. Otherwise you may become a hermit to avoid all potential illness.

And yeah totally some symptoms linger for a looonnnggg time. You would have to keep them quarantined for a month. It’s too long. I know a kiddo who has chronic pneumonia since like being a few months old. He’s 2 now. The parents can’t keep him home forever, they gotta work. He is always sniffling.

It depends really on what the ailment is. Some kids constantly have snotty noses. Or they might have red cheeks and be cranky due to teething. Once they're in school you can't keep them off for every cough and cold because schools have certain attendance requirements and you can be fined for not meeting them ( worst case scenario). But something like a baby class, I wouldn't bother attending with a sick baby because they are going to spread the illness unnecessarily and they aren't going to get anything out of it of they aren't well.