Baby still only sleeps when held

Baby is now 4 months old. Since he was three weeks old we’ve been holding him for naps and bedtime. My husband and I take turns but now we JUST CAN’T DO it anymore. My back, hands, and arms hurt so much. It’s exhausting. He is an extremely light sleeper and the moment we put him down he wakes up. Don't think he has reflux. It’s more of a comfort thing. Please please help me.
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We ended up discussing with our pediatrician to start having baby sleep on his stomach. Because we also hold him. I love holding him to sleep. But I also need to get things done and he needs to learn to sleep on his own. Our pediatrician said we were safer now that he rolls both ways to put him to sleep on his belly. And he sleeps through the night like this and all his naps. He’s been sleeping on his tummy on us for months so he has really good head control and protects his air way well. We started with supervised naps so i could make sure he would turn his head. I even position his head straight down into the sheet to see if he’d turn it and he did immediately. ( If he didn’t i would have turn his head and determined he wasn’t ready for belly sleep)

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When my baby got out of the Nicu she did this and because my husband owns a business and provides for us I was on my own. Finally I tried a heating pad in the crib while she slept on be for a bit then I’d take it out and slowly put her down making sure her feet would touch the mat first (idk why this tip helps but it does) then I would sleep till the next feed. But honestly I wouldn’t actually sleep, I was paranoid and would watch her sleep so I finally just started safely cosleeping (husband in a separate room it works for us) and I talked to her pediatrician and with our situation and how aware she’s been since being in the Nicu (severe preeclampsia preemie 2 mths) she told me to try covering her head with a blanket to see what she would do and she instantly gets it off her face even asleep. Anything blocking her breathing she gets away from. I’m also very aware and EBF. Only sleep with a throw and one pillow. This works for us and has helped her get deeper sleep

Check out the Safe Sleep Seven for info on safe cosleeping; maybe it could help you?

Hi have you tried a sleep sack? Or having your shirt somewhere near baby? I had to do that for a while because baby was the same way for a long time until a month ago

Im sat here right now with my 9.5 month old baby who only contact naps in the day! He can sleep in his pram or car seat .. but he’ll only ever have a really good long sleep whilst in my arms! X

Same here. Just found this lovely piece of information 🙃

If you don't toss and turn you can sleep with baby propped up on your chest. My daughter is a belly sleeper and she can't roll both ways but she does know to lift her head and turn it so nothing obstructs her breathing. I've tried to get her to sleep on her back but she just gets to her belly anyway and sleeps longer 😪 try putting baby down on their side instead of their back and see if they stay asleep, that tends to do the trick with my daughter. I cosleep with my son and I'm trying not to co sleep with her (that's going over like a fart in church) most nights I end up in a C curl around her and him breathing down my neck 🤣

I also did the heating pad trick that Evelena mentioned and just took time practicing putting baby down for naps. I started with putting him down on a jacket that I had been wearing, to a blanket that I used, and slowly to his bassinet then crib. I bought one of the electric heating pads off amazon that was intended for sore muscles because it was kind of the perfect size for him and would preheat the surface I wanted to put him on. Also transferred him by rocking him and placing him butt and feet down first before his head. I also tried keeping my chest to his body and I set him down and slowly remove myself. Out didn’t work right away, but practice definitely helped over time!

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