Need advice please don’t judge

I’m being vulnerable because I truly don’t have anyone to talk to. I was very sexually active in my teens and early 20s and have a high body and I am ashamed. I’ve been tested before and thankfully did not have stds, I withheld the truth about my past from my husband. I also cheated on him repeatedly. I eventually came clean and told him everything. He was so gracious and is still with me trying to make it work for us and our daughter. He asked if I would get tested again and I did and my doctor explained I had urea plasma which she explained is something they don’t always test for and most people have it. Got antibiotics and got it taken care of. Recently I have been having a lot of suppressed memories come up that have been haunting me. I was abused as a child and my parents exposed me to sexual things from a young age that made me develop an addiction to sex and sex toys. My parents however while exposing me to this made sex seem like this thing we could talk about and school give you the basic facts and I developed a bad addiction to porn and sex toys. Because I didn’t have a safe place to talk about this I kept it hidden and it resulted in me using my moms vibrators and my sisters and I didn’t properly clean them just wiped them off and sat in shame. I didn’t do it as a kink but like an addict I needed to calm the need for that sexual feeling. Before remembering this stuff I cut ties with all of my family due to their abuse and haven’t spoke to them in years and recently turned to Christ. I’m wondering if I should tell them especially after seeing the ureaplasma. I’ve had people tell me not to because my family might not understand their abuse helped cause this addiction and problem and I don’t know where I got ureaplasma. I’ve been told telling them would not be beneficial for anyone but yet I’m haunted by it and part of me feels like telling them would make my guilt go away but would also hurt them. Please don’t judge, I already feel beyond disgusting and horrible by what I have done probably going to delete this but had to get it off my chest
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I don’t think you would have gave it to them I just had a Quick Look on what it is and it doesn’t say it’s a std and you could have got this at any time after even during the time of being with you’re husband. U also shouldn’t feel ashamed of your past.

@Tasha I’m constantly flooded with the thoughts of “I don’t when I got it and maybe I should say something” and I know that roughly 7 years ago was when I did used their things and I’m disgusted by myself. People keep saying forgive yourself but it’s difficult when I can’t remember exactly when I last did it years ago and that I don’t know what to do. I’m so ashamed and wish everyday I didn’t have that addiction because I was reckless

It’s take time to heal and forgive , forgive yourself and those who hurt you. Just give yourself grace. Be open with your husband always, maybe get a therapist. I appreciate your openness and standing in your truth. Maybe you can inspire or help teens by sharing your story, whenever you’re ready

Are you in therapy? I think trying to work on this trauma and past thoughts would be best with a therapist. Try journaling also. Once you finish writing, you can throw the paper away, burn it or rip it up. Don’t be ashamed or guilty for your past with sex. Who cares how many people you slept with (i hate that’s a stigma in so many cultures).

@𝓨𝓸𝓷𝓷𝓪 He didn’t care that I had been with people before him. He knew I wasn’t a virgin but I lied about the number and I also cheated on him repeatedly which was why I got tested again. I think he’s hurting because of the betrayal

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