Community Posts, Tips & Support on Adoption, Fostering & Surrogacy

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Were you raised by both parents?

Just wondering if anyone else was raised by foster parents or adopted parents.

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Has toddler stayed a night without you?

For NYE my husband wants to take me out and let his parents look after my little one. She's very close to grandparents and they look after her really well. However, I've never spent a night without her. She's 2.5 years old now so I feel like it's ok but I'm anxious. How was your experience and how was little one?

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Restricting visitation

Do you think any parent (male/female) has a right to restrict visitation if the one parent doesn’t pay child support?

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Do you think it’s unethical to have more kids if you can’t afford it?

I made another post on here and the responses were a nice new perspective but it made me curious as to what people think about this. Do you think it’s unethical for people to plan to have kids when they can’t afford it? (Not including accidental pregnancies) For example: I know someone who just had her son via ac...

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PARENTING!

Is it better to be a strict parent to instill discipline, or should parents focus more on being understanding and supportive to nurture their children's emotional well-being?" What do you think about this topic?

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Who is finding being a parent way harder than originally thought?

I love my baby and would do anything for him but jheeeez im finding motherhood really tough. Im not sure the baby stage is for me 🥺 I worry about everything when it comes to his health, his general anatomy, head shape, feeding, that kid of thing, and question what is normal all the time.

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Do you think it’s unethical to have a lot of kids even if you can afford it?

I’ve always thought it’s unethical to have more than 5 kids even if you are wealthy enough to provide fully for those kids. Mainly because there just is no way everyone is getting what they need emotionally. For example, I know someone with 6 kids , last of which is a newborn and the oldest is only 10 and he does s...

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I think the word “ spoilt “ is thrown around to brazenly when describing kids.

For example I feel as though people are quick to label a child “spoilt” just because their parents can / do buy them expensive / nice / a lot of things , that child could be immensely grateful but is labed spoilt over material things

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Dictating how I raise my kids.

Not my MIL but my adoptive parents. I’m 21 years old. My age is the reason I think this is happening. Context. I was doing fine until I moved in with my parents. They offered me to stay in one of their homes as they have many and I said yes. I was doing fine on my own with my little family and they convinced me to m...

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How does registering my baby without a father work?

Me and my baby daddy no longer speak, my baby is 2 weeks old and I’d like to get him registered however I was told that the father needed to be there if we’re not married. Is there anyway this can happen without him?

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The Morals of a Parent

Can you trust a MAN or WOMAN who does not take care of their child(ren) Examples include: -Allowing the primary caregiver to raise the child but NOT sending financial support or spending at least 20% ( of the week) around the child doing parenting duty's -face time children or calling, . Keeping promises to child...

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No FAMILY At Christmas Time

This time of year can hit really hard. I have no family. My husbands parents have been passed for a while. I never had a dad growing up and my mum lives far away and I’m not really in contact with her. So we have no where to go and no one to host at Christmas time. This was the same growing up as a kid. I hate it an...

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Have you yet brought your baby somewhere where there is someone you don’t really like ?

Like someone you dread even holding your baby. I’m trying to think if I’m ready but I’m literally so protective abt my baby right now

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Gentle parenting

Were you gentle parented, and do you gentle parent?

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What is the right way to teach this?

A kid on the playground was pushing my son. My son came over and told me “a black kid was pushing him.” It felt wrong that my son was using only the kids race to identify him. I wouldn’t like someone to identify me just by my race or approach a problem where I was described by my skin tone first. Am I wrong for thin...

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Having babes later in life and family is way less interested in our journey, an unexpected consequence of waiting.

Me and my husband are in our mid-30s and just starting our family with a babe due in April. I have two siblings, one of which has three babes ranging from 8 years old to 4 years. Both of my husband’s siblings have 2 kids, ranging from 4 years to 1 year old. We’ve both been super involved in our nieces and nephews li...

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Do you use gentle parenting?

Do you last all day with it? Do you ever raise your voice after gentle parenting doesn’t work? Curious..asking for a friend

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Positive 💗

Here we go again. So excited and very nervous about how to manage two. Any tips gratefully received xxx

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How to announce boundaries

34 weeks pregnant and feeling like baby may come early.. I would really like to put some boundaries in place for when baby is born such as i only want my partner in the hospital and i would like atleast a week untill visitors come to see baby.. maybe even longer depending on how i feel. my partner has no issue wit...

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Runny eggs

Am I allowed runny eggs? I love them but heard you can’t then heard you can aslong as it has the red lion on it. Can’t remember from my first pregnancy, still got baby brain 😩🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

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