Random question.

I am a sahm with all my bills paid for (by my partner) but I have 0 outgoings. 3k from him would be nice but also that’s like a lot monthly when all my food etc is paid for, just need money for weekly activities while he is at work, I just use his card🤷🏼‍♀️ But without a child, if I was in a job I really enjoyed then yeh I probably wouldn’t quit to stay home with a baby all day for 3k

@Olivia I’m noticing a lot of young couples don’t like the “use my card” idea. I’ve asked a couple men (I’m from London) and they say they would rather give their woman money or use card here and there. But to just give them the card to keep, they wouldn’t want that. So interesting how different people are

Ooh I’ve just added his to my Apple Pay, I don’t really like the idea of an allowance like him sending me money monthly, I much prefer just having his card

Omg my little girl would live life so good we aren’t on 3k a month between us

I have a 1 year old and am a stay at home mum and I just have my fiancés bank card. I would find having an “allowance” strange. I can within limits buy whatever the baby and I need and the way he sees it is he is working for the families money it’s for all 3 of us. As I am home all day with the baby I can’t get a job so all the money he makes is equally mine and he’s just grateful being able to work knowing our baby is safe and very loved at the same time :)

@Isabella yeah I see what you mean about the allowance thing. It’s more so, if you have an average spend, hubby just budgets that out of his salary to also help calculate his monthly outgoings. I’m sure if there were other major purchases that she needed, he wouldn’t say “no use your allowance” haha x

@Daisy girl I feel you! Imagine 3k a month just to spend on whatever 😭😭

I will be a sahm mum soon and once my maternity pay is up, my husband will give me a credit card to use and he will just keep paying it off as and when needed. I liked that idea better than having to ask him for money or getting an allowance from him. We don’t have a joint account or anything but that may also be a good idea in the future!

@Saara credit card is a great idea!!!

I'm a work from home Mum while I'm at uni to get my second degree but my money goes into savings and I just use my fiance's card for whatever I need/want to buy. He's got a really good job so he just added his card to my GPay and said I can use that whenever

She probably gets fulfillment from the job which means more than the money. But also that extra £3k could mean so many holidays every year. Hot tub at home... 3k without bills would be enough but I wouldn't want my skills and degree to go to waste for more than a few years either The more money you get the more you want. It can never be satisfying. I think money really doesn't make you happy you just need a base minimum to feel comfortable enough to support your happiness

I can't be a stay at home mum. Doesn't matter how much money my partner makes. I just mentally can't. But working for pleasure is definitely a dream.

@Alex I agree, especially when you don’t have kids yet you can’t really just reason leaving a good job and good money to be at home. I’m a sahm so I can say yeh I’d love that but I also wasn’t on 6k before🤣🤣🤣

I have about $100 set aside for personal/entertainment a month. I don’t even know what I would do with $3000.

@Thao I currently want to work but I can’t see myself working as my baby is still so small!!! :( I wish I could work because although I’m very comfortable and my husband does look after us well financially… having a career and an outlet is something I really want, plus extra money is never bad

depends, is he paying for my monthly bills for activities and maintenance too? Like my nails, pilates classes, gym club etc? If not then £3k a month may be ok but I wouldn’t be able to sacrifice my financial independence. Id still do some sort of side hustle and invest my money each month. In which case, the more the better. But the dream would definitely be to be financially comfortable enough to live a life of luxury mixed with unlimited volunteer and charity work x

6k after takes is more than 3k so maybe she wanted her same take home because even without bills you need to contribute to retirement out if that 3k and you don’t get employer matching funds. . If you leave your career and you later need to return it’s not always easy. So no i wouldn’t give up my career to be a SAHM for 3k a month. But that’s my opinion based on my career and what would make my comfortable

@Cyn didn’t think about retirement! Great answer