Newborn and baby blues

Hang in there. It gets better! Why do you think baby is in pain? I found when my LB was really upset in the early days, lots of skin to skin and pop him in the sling so he was close to me. Still works now 8 months in. You've got this! Stay strong xx

Hi lovely ❤️ are you BF or formula? Have you considered chatting to your midwife or gp x I can really relate with your partner going back to work, I cried so much with the anticipation. Just know it will all be okay and you will be okay, deep breaths ❤️

She is scrunching her legs up and arching her back and screaming after feeds and it particularly happens at night. She’s straining to go to the toilet but can’t go 🥺 xxx

First. Things DO AND WILL get better!! The first 3-5 months are hard especially if your baby has any crying issues. Almost always it’s gas or so bad it’s colic. My baby was great in the day but once it hit 5pm it was go time and she would scream cry all night! Talk to your doctor first but I am happy to share what ultimately worked for us to get her through those tummy issues and calming her quicker ❤️ I promise it’s going to be okay. They have to let out their pain somehow and crying is all they have to communicate and it sucks that it can be so taxing emotionally when you’re trying everything. Next comment will post what we did in case it helps but please ask doctor first what would be okay!!

Are you BF or formula? If BF try cutting out dairy and of formula maybe try a different make. Might be worth a chat with HV or GP if she's struggling but it is very normal. It's so hard in the early days but it does get better x

Things that worked and were based on age be sure to look before you try anything medicine wise 1. Moved her to hypoallergenic formula at about 2 months since breastfeeding seemed to make it worse even after going dairy free. If breastfeeding is working I wouldn’t start with this option just yet 2. Got a colic belt on Amazon. This was my holy grail! It’s a little heating pad essentially. 3. Gripe water - never full doses and only once at night never all day. Just a little to help her use the bathroom each night 3. Mylicon gas drops - same only at night 4. Bicycle stretches 5. Colic sound machine noises: look into this but my baby loved the chainsaw 😬😭 We started before our “witching hour” At 430pm I’d give her a little warm water only sponge bath and massage, give her drops, warm her colic belt, feed and burp her, get Jammie’s on and put the belt on and let her lay kind of propped up on the couch and pet her head in a singular rhythm. Then take her into the dark nursery to rock

Then if the crying started I’d do bicycles and then skin to skin rocking in the dark with a chainsaw on YouTube

Wow this was me last week. I had unbelieveable anxiety about dad going to work. He’s due back Monday and I’m fine about it now. Baby blues are awful and wreck havoc with our bodies, I’ve never felt anything like that. I wrote down how I was feeling and what I was actually scared of and I feel like it helped rationalise my thoughts. For example dad won’t be here for x hours but he wasn’t when I was preg so what is it I’m actually scared of? Xx

@Bethan-Kate hey, it looks like she could have reflux? Mine was doing exactly the same...I cried too because she was genearlly a happy and relaxed baby but all in a sudden she was in so much pain :( I caved and went to the gp and I'm so glad I did, they told me she has reflux. I'm adding carobel to her milk now and my relaxed and happy girl is back. Not a miracle cure but it helps to keep her food down :)

I’m so sorry to hear this. I have been using infacol for our 3 week old baby and it does seem to improve the non stop crying. You can get it from any pharmacy x

Hi, it sounds like your baby has reflux as the symptoms are continuous crying, arching back etc - definitely go to the GP as it sounds like you need some help. Hope you’re ok, it must be so hard trying to work out what is wrong x

or your baby could be colic, apparently reflux and colic aren’t they same but the way your baby expresses discomfort of both is by crying constantly and arching back etc

I’m having same problem at the moment. My little girl is 20 days old and the last few nights she’s been crying and acting like she’s in pain with same symptoms yours is having. It’s so hard and my partner has also gone back to work. I’m constantly googling in the night of her symptoms and things to help her but it can be so overwhelming with the amount of information on the internet and not really knowing for sure what is wrong. But as everyone keeps saying, it does get better ❤️‍🩹 and there’s so much support and advice on here too. Just know your not alone lovely x

I had a couple of nights of that with mine and seemed like she just couldn’t get wind out! I don’t know if she over ate so I tried taking her off to burp then carrying on feeding. Also tried tummy massage which got some wind out, and held her upright on me for a while before putting her down. Not sure if any of that will help - it was a tough couple of nights! Midwife recommended a colic medicine but she’s actually been ok since so not used it yet! Infracol or something I think it’s called x