Feeling guilty about not getting out
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Don’t feel guilty! I didn’t leave the house with my baby for months unless my partner dragged us as truthfully I just found it too stressful. He too fed constantly and by the time he’d been on the boob been changed etc it was time to go again. It gets so much easier as they get a bit older I promise and baby will be just fine for now x
They say wait two months anyway. It's okay
My baby was pretty much a month before we went anywhere, he was in the neonatal unit at the hospital for just under 3 weeks.
Please don’t worry - and you dont have to justify yourself either. You’ve just had a baby and are healing from trauma. Going for a lovely walk might look picture perfect but I promise your baby is NOT missing out. I spent most of my first child’s first year feeling guilty because my friends were all at farms / coffee shops / soft play constantly and I felt utterly overwhelmed leaving the house (he was a bit crier, loudly, all the time 😂). I’ve since realised that babies do not care about going to farms, coffee shops or soft play. Babies care about being fed and having cuddles. That’s pretty much it. All those activities, including walks through the park, are for the mum. So if you want to go for a walk and can manage it, great: but absolutely do not feel guilty if you can’t manage it! If you’re worried about baby getting fresh air / vitamin D you can legit sit in the garden or in front of an open window. You’re going to spend the next five years in the park with a buggy. Rest now.
Please don't feel guilty, all he really needs is you. Plenty of time to explore the world xx
Thankyou so much everyone the women on this app never fail to make me feel better! You’re all amazing ❤️❤️
my baby is almost 4 weeks, i refuse to go out by myself with her, i always wait until my boyfriend is home after work or on a weekend
Just rest. If you need day light just sit in the garden in your pjs with a blanket. Baby won’t care
Don’t feel guilty, if you want to take him out you will, but you shouldn’t feel guilty for not getting out that much, I personally don’t want to take my baby out that much once he gets here, I have thought about taking him on walks around my neighborhood just because I know he needs a lil bit of sun but I wouldn’t feel guilty for only taking him out a few times, having a new baby has got to be hard at times, and there’s other ways for him to get the sun if he needs it
What?! I had to re-read because I was so surprised this said 3 weeks and not 3 months. 3 weeks is really not a big deal at all 😄 The first month is a total write-off and meant to be spent mostly in bed just recovering and bonding. You're not doing anything wrong! If you want to go out then sure, but absolutely do not feel like you have to! You literally just gave birth, and you've got a newborn to look after on top!
Baby doesn't even know you are separate people yet so they are happy being around you :) look up 4th trimester and that helps you reframe it. You are doing amazing 😍
Do NOT feel guilty. Do what you need to do to survive the first few weeks. Things do get easier, go gentle on yourself