More babies

My husband and I decided on one more (we have a 10 and almost 1 year old) until my birth and we decided against it since it increases my chance of the same thing happening. I'm super sad about it, we realized around 6 months pp and I wish I didn't miss so much her first 2 months and soaked it in much more than I did. I was in survival mode. But I'd love another, just don't want to risk my kiddos losing their mama 🖤

If you have to question it, then you’re not done. I’m completely done being pregnant so I know two is plenty. If I want more kids in the future I will happily adopt and I’m comfortable with that option.

Having just had a 9 month old is still reasonably early to consider whether or not you want more children. That being said, there are also a lot of factors that go into whether or not having another child would be beneficial to you AND the potential little human you would welcome. For me, I grew up in a big family with a lot of passed down stress and abuse. I currently have two, but as I’m going through a divorce and know that my capacity for stress is not the best, I try to remind myself that adding another in the future probably is not the smartest decision, even though I would love to go through the experience again. Consider a lot more than simply the way that you feel. Being financially, physically, and mentally prepared for another child is just as important as being emotionally ready.

I always say you know when you’re done. Me and hubby always discussed two kids. My first pregnancy was far from easy, lost 50+ lbs and multiple hospitalizations. But my heart told me do it one more time. I did it one more time and my body/my mind/and my heart both tell me I’m done. I always look into the future and in our discussion and both of us have agreed we are more than content with both our boys. I literally cannot fathom doing the newborn stage all over again.

They say to be imagine your future dinner table. What does it look like??