Broken.

I tell you what if he thinks he can do it better then let him bloody try!! God he sounds infuriating. Just ignore his bull shit, I don’t even know you and I know your a good mum because you clearly care! Hope you are ok - keep going - bad sleep is not forever xx

You are NOT a failure. Honestly, shame on your husband! You are supposed to be a team and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you needing help. As humans, we can’t function correctly on lack of sleep. If anyone is disappointed, it should be you for the way your husband is handling this situation. So sorry mama. Also, sleep will get better, hang in there ❤️

I am really sorry your husband said that to you. I hope that he chose the incorrect word, because being disappointed in a first time mum , or any mum for that matter, is a reflection of him and his attitude, not you or your efforts.

Please check out Rosie Davidson sleep consultant. I have been doing her ‘sleep training’ for about 2 weeks on my son who never slept more than 2 hour stints and he now sleeps 7-3/5am without waking. He also goes to sleep pretty easily in his cot too. I did a gentle approach, not cry it out and its changed my life. I now don’t feel exhausted in the days. Xxx

I’d of told him I’m disappointed as I thought you’d actually step up and be a parent so I guess that makes two. I’m sorry but you are most certainly not a failure, he is. He’s failed to see you’ve reached your limit and he’s still not stepped up. What did he expect?!

You are definitely not a failure! Your partner has failed you by making you feel this way and also not helping during the night! Let him try it ffs. He definitely needs to help. And don’t worry you are not alone because I’ve been where you are and there are plenty of mamas in the same boat whose bubs just don’t sleep through. My LB has only just slept through 2x and he’s 16 months old and it took a lot for him to get there.

Wow he sounds awful. Where are his standards on being a decent husband and father? You are absolutely not a failure, Your husband is failing as as partner. I'm sorry your not getting much sleep, I'm only 2 months behind you and I'm also not getting much sleep, feel free to message for a chat x

I can’t get over this. How could anyone be ‘disappointed’ in something like this that you cannot control. Babies lead themselves we can only follow and answer their calls. He ought to be ashamed. Disappointed in you for essentially raising his child for him whilst he sleeps the night away. I’d be fuming!

I would have been so passive aggressive and told him he doesn’t have to do nights then…if the baby wakes up any time from 12am-7am it’s all his. I’ll gladly take the 7pm-11:59pm shift. 😂 on a real note- i’m so sorry you are going through this rn! you are not wrong for voicing your needs and your husbands expectations of you don’t change your very basic need for sleep. I think this topic deserves another conversation- try to set it up as a brain storming session together with the only goal being how you can get more sleep. Write down different shift times and ask him which 6 hours period(s) he would like to take. He will very clearly see that you are still taking the majority and he won’t have any reasonable excuse! 😊

He sounds awful. Why the hell would he be disappointed in you?!! Let him do it for a few day. Is he generally a male chauvinist in other ways?

Wtf you are doing great! My son is the same and it is HARD

I am right here with you!! My little girl has never slept through, nor has my partner ever done a night. I cannot believe he said that to you! I am so so sorry! You are not a failure. This shit is hard. We give absolutely everything to our babies, including our bodies and mental state. You are doing everything you can to be an amazing muma and do not deserve to feel like this!

What. The. Actual. FUCK?! Disappointed??! Having a child is a JOINT responsibility, you should be disappointed in HIM for not stepping up & being a father & good supportive husband. Sorry girl 🥹💕

Please don’t think you’re a failure, my little girl is 11 months and is a terrible sleeper. I don’t think I would have coped if my partner wasn’t sharing the load with me. He needs to get his head out of his arse and start helping, this isn’t just your responsibility. He’s just trying to put it back onto you, making you feel like your baby not sleeping is your fault so he doesn’t have to help. I agree with @Sudanny✨ you should be disappointed in him.

What an awful thing for him to say! I think it’s disappointing he hasn’t helped. And you are amazing for doing the nights alone! My son didn’t sleep through the night till 23 months 🙃

What?! Higher standards of what, expected behaviour in his wife or his seven month old? Perhaps you should tell him you have higher standards of expected behaviour and empathy in your husband and you’re fucking disappointed

Don't listen to him. You are smashing it! I couldn't do every night shift and I struggle with day shifts when I'm shattered too. You shouldn't have to do them all on your own and definitely not a disappointment, I think bloody superhero. Tell him to try a night shift or 7 months of them and then he will see how hard it is When you are struggling tell him to help. F what he thinks about disappointed he is a parent too and you need help. I hope you're okay and you're feeling better. You are honestly doing amazing

Oh, what a piece of shit man he is. Sleep deprivation is honestly torture. He is disappointing as a husband and father as you've told him you've reached your limit. I'm sorry he isn't supportive to you in yours and your baby's time of need.