Second baby - when?

Please can I get thoughts? Ideally we want to have a second baby at some point. Now feels way too early to think about it (feels like our March baby has only just arrived !), but it’s not due to my age and due to my job. We’re loosely thinking about trying again when our baby turns one. It’s unlikely we’ll be lucky first time so guessing there will be two years minimum between them. I just worry that I won’t be giving enough attention to our first born I suppose if we try again soon, and I wont be enjoying this special developmental time with them 😔 Ideally I’d like to leave it 3y between them or more. Logistically though, because of my age and financially we should do it much sooner. What do you guys think? And are any of you having to think about number 2 already?
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Hey we have 2. There is a 2 year 2 month age gap. Its hard work but its amazing how they have bonded already. My toddler loves to help out. I do make sure I do my toddlers bed time so that's our time together every day.

Due to having an emergency c section we have been advised to wait 18 months before getting pregnant again meaning if we go pregnant straight away (this time round we did) there would be about a 2 and a half years between them, im thinking prob 3 would be better as the 3 year old will be potty trained etc

It isn’t a best time… just u know when u are ready

We’ve got a 2 year 9 month age gap. The eldest has adapted really well and loves her little sister. Initially it was hard and I didn’t feel I could give as much attention to my eldest but we’ve got into the swing of it. I think there’s pluses and minuses to all the different age gaps but I’m sure you’ll make it work for you whatever you decide

I’m already trying again with the hope to be pregnant by Christmas. This is due to my age

We have 2y 7m and love that gap. We wanted anything from 2y2m to 2y10m. If we have a third that’s what we will Go for xx

We've got a 2 year and 9 months gap and it's great as my little boy is much more independent at times.

We've got a 3 and a half year age gap between our two. I'd say there's positives and negatives in that so you just need to think about what is best for your situation and relationship. It felt right for us at the time to wait. We had got our eldest into a good sleep pattern, potty trained, loved independent play and we had enjoyed plenty of quality time as a family of 3 before trying for another. Down side is that completely forgot how tough sleep deprivation and newborn phase can be and may have been easier doing it closer all in one big hit! 😂 Go for whatever feels right for you all.

Took us a year to get pregnant with our first, I thought second would be the same and it happened the first month! So we have a 2 year age gap. It’s helpful that his communication is really good and he had just started sleeping better before she was born, but I think a few more months may have helped, but we cope with whatever card we are dealt! Pregnancy and a toddler is much harder than a baby and a toddler, in my opinion.

I wanted to try for second when my baby is a year old, however I ended up in a c section and they don't advise getting pregnant before 18m, which sucks. Especially as I'm a bigger girl and was high risk.

Ah I find this so hard to consider. Bloody time! @Sammi we also had to have a caesarean in the end but they told us to wait a year, rather than 18 months

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