Doctors - manager kissed my baby!

I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I'm a FTM, still yet to have my baby, but the thought of people kissing my baby when I have explicitly told them that it is a no-no scares me more than labor. You are not wrong to feel the way you do either. It is an awkward conversation, but as a mom you are right to want to protect your little one. Trust your instinct, rude or not, have that conversation. Sending strength and virtual hugs your way. 🤗

Yeah it’s horrible :(( especially a person. I don’t no a doctor who legit was holding her just whilst I had my smear I want to complain tbh xx

As much as I fully understand why you're upset (I would be too) I don't think I would take this further. As firstly, the manager very likely genuinely didn't think about it, it is often instinct for us to want to kiss babies, and will likely be mortified that you're upset about it. Secondly, when making a complaint you need to have in mind what you want to happen as a result of your complaint (I deal with complaints). This was very likely a genuine mistake by someone who clearly loved your little baby, and the likelihood of something terrible happening is so small x

I just feel like it’s bang out of order and I get she liked willow but it made me so upset and I’m anxious about doctors now. I just want the doctors to be aware of how it made me feel so this woman doesn’t kiss anyone else’s baby. I just feel like it’s unacceptable and unprofessional you know. It isn’t insta y for me to kiss baby’s only my own so I don’t get why she would think it’s ok especially as I don’t no her you know xx

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I think your points are very much valid. I'd be very upset if a stranger kissed my baby. I think calling the Dr surgery and just making them aware is ok and making the Dr aware that it upset you and like you said just making her think again before doing it to someone else's baby x

@Amber I would never kiss anyone else's baby either, but I think certain generations are just not as aware as we are now, so they don't think about it. I'm just not for embarrassing someone over what was probably a genuine mistake with no malice intended. This also shouldn't put you off going to the doctors. I've been to the doctors many times recently with my baby in tow x

I wouldn’t complain but I’d make them aware of what happened and how it made you feel.

You could say something like “I just want to make you aware of an incident that happened during an appointment with the practice nurse. The manager very kindly consoled by baby while having something done but felt at the end a boundary was crossed when she kissed my baby on the cheek. It made me feel anxious due to not knowing her very well and the fear of my baby getting sick is a big worry of mine in general”

Yeah I’ll say that it’s just because I don’t even let family do it lol and yet she did it thinking it’s ok. I was in shock and it proper upset me because I said nothing. I just felt as a person who works in a doctors practice she should know better

Your feelings are valid and as a ftm yourself it’s bound to feel like so. Let’s hope nothg serious happens, have a tag that says no kissing baby smthg that’s available out there. One time my husband’s fren’s wife who is a smoker kissed my baby’s mouth without my knowledge and I was proper upset. But I couldn’t say any thg, touchwood nthg happened. I think you should call n let them aware about the situation because that’s not right to kiss others baby no matter how yummy babies can be lol. When I was in hospital, I was ok with student midwives hugging my baby but senior midwives strictly made away no kissing even if baby is edible lol 😂 Try not to be too stressed but if u feel it will give u peace so be it. Hopefully 🤞 all should be well.

That is so weird!!!

What’s this tag?

It’s so weird here calling me to discuss it Monday with the lady who kissed her

If you look on your GP surgery website there should be a complaints procedure to follow so you may not have to speak to her about it x

Yeah this isn’t ok, I’m sick of people trying to even touch my daughter’s face.. I’m talking random usually old ladies while queuing in shops for example while I’m baby wearing. It’s just not acceptable so for someone to kiss your daughter I’d be fuming, I also don’t let anyone kiss my baby but me so I get your anger! I now don’t baby wear in public as it’s just too open and people think they have the right to touch!