Failing as a mum
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You are doing absolutely nothing wrong and if anything you’re doing a fantastic job! Everything will work out!
And how exactly have you failed him? You’re doing an amazing job by loving your baby, providing for him and protecting him. Stop fixating on the small stuff, he’s 8 months old and he is acting like a healthy baby (although it might not seem like it). I am going through exactly same things as you have listed with my little girl, she is constantly frustrated and gets angry at everything but I just ignore her little tantrums as I know it’s just a phase and she wants to do things but she’s unable yet. Also been teething for months and you can see them under gums but they haven’t cut through yet, she hates most foods apart from melty puffs, few purées and strawberries, not crawling yet, and don’t get me started on naps 🙈 yet she is the happiest little girl, and she just need a little distraction when she gets frustrated and she’s fine again 🙈 babies meant to be like this and you’re not doing anything wrong ❤️ also they grow so fast so enjoy every stage no matter how long it lasts
Your not failing your doing amazing job with your son . Tbh my daughter is 8 months tomorrow been teething for months but no teeth yet either . My daughter also has disrupted sleep sometimes to . My daughter isn’t crawling yet either like each baby is diffirent and hits diffirent milestones diffirent . The teeth will come through eventually you are doing amazing job .
You’re an amazing mum!!! You took the time to write this post and that proves it!! You’re doing the best you can!! Take it one day at a time and remember all babies are different! You seem like u care so much and that’s what makes a good mum!! U got this mama ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
You’re not failing at all. My LO is the same age and gags on all food even puree but he can eat a melty puff it’s all he will have without gagging. It’s hard work being a mum hit your doing great!
Why are you feeling this way? You shouldn't and you are doing amazing, your baby seems ok to me, disruptive sleep is part of the game unfortunately, don't let anyone fool you about "my baby slept through the night since they were born", it can be true for some but it's not a thing for everyone. My baby is 8 as well and basically yeah, she sleeps through (meaning that she goes down for bed amazingly even for naps but she is a very crappy sleeper, multiple wakes up every night) and a 4 months sleep regression that seems to last forever, I'm not getting any sleep along with her. Eventually they will learn to sleep through, they are young and they are evolving, sleep disruption is normal. Hang in there
My 8 month also does not sleep through the night, and his naps are very hit and miss as he also fights them.. He also does not like soilds much so.. you are not alone!!!
Bless you, you aren’t failing as a mum, it is HARD. Especially when you feel like they aren’t doing things that other babies are doing. I had similar feelings after my first baby, he was a terrible sleeper and didn’t sleep through the night consistently until he was 18 months old. The sleep deprivation nearly killed me and my health suffered. I didn’t have the energy to do things with him and I didn’t take him to any classes until he was a toddler and although we had play dates I felt like I was letting him down. He couldn’t sit up or crawl until he was 9 months old. But things did improve and looking back I had postnatal depression, which I think I knew but I was in denial. I also suffer from chronic anxiety and get periods of depression so although thankfully things have been so much better with my 8 month old, I still get feelings that I’m failing my children for various reasons. But I know I am doing my best and really enjoy the little moments with them, even though it’s tough!
Have you looked into a form of therapy or counselling? It may help you deal with the feelings you are experiencing.
I feel really sad you feel this way, you’re doing absolutely amazing and I can guarantee your little boy knows your his world. Firstly teeth, there is nothing you or anyone can do that will make them grow quicker. 2. No matter how much you force foods or don’t with babies, they’re only going to eat what they want or enjoy. It’ll come in time. 3. Sleep/naps - it is so common for babies to struggle with sleep or go through phases. It will get better. 4. Crawling - No matter what you do your little one is only going to crawl when they want to, some babies don’t actually ever crawl which is also fine. Just remember you’re amazing and aslong as your baby is happy, healthy and loved. That’s all he asks of you and you are most definitely good enough for him🫶 All babies are unique and hit milestones at different times, it is most definitely not because we haven’t done things the ‘correct’ way, try to remember this x
Thank you everyone, all your words mean so much to me🤍 I’ve spoken to my partner about how I’m feeling, I know all babies will do it in there own time I just don’t want to the reason I keep him from growing and developing into the amazing little boy he is becoming🤍xx
You are absolutely NOT failing as a Mum! The fact that you wrote this post shows how much you care about your son and his wellbeing. Being a Mother is sooo tough, especially with social media as we always think that we are not doing enough or comparing our babies to others. And don’t worry, my son is not a great sleeper as well, and he only bum shuffles - no signs of crawling yet! And he also only prefers purées and I’m having a hard time with him eating any finger foods but I’m trying my hardest and I know you are too! So just keep going, you’re doing an amazing job!!! ❤️