Mum guilt

I had my second child (boy) nearly 3 weeks ago, and I feel like my 6 year old daughter has been slightly neglected by us as we are so busy with the little one. I am bf in the daytime, so I’m stuck with him. I have not able to be with her in the mornings to help her get ready for school and I know she’s missing our old routine, and it makes me so sad knowing she’s a bit sad, although she won’t say it. She loves her baby bro so much but we are so sleep deprived and I’m short on patience at times too. My husband has been doing the school run but I know she’s missing me more, the 1:1 time. I know it won’t always be like this and we are still adjusting, but I’ve just been crying all morning today, feeling so guilty for not giving her all of me.

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It’s really fresh. Very hard at the beginning. My little girl isn’t in school yet but I felt how you were feeling this year in May when we transitioned to two. Bf constantly and being that baby’s every need. Having the guilt and crying over what’s feels like is lost right now. It’ll be the trenches for a bit. But it gets so much better, so much easier in good time. 6 months in and I can breathe a little more. I can enjoy my girl more! One on one dates and watching the 6 month old giggle and light up and the sight of her sister. It’s going to be ok. It might not feel like it for a little while. One day at a time. This baby will have you feeling stuck at a standstill, take each day as it comes. For you, your partner, daughter and baby.

@Amy thank you love, this was helpful to read

I know everyone’s experiences are different. But it was so difficult for me in the beginning. So happy with how it’s progressed with time

Absolutely know where you’re coming from. I used to ask my 3 year old daughter to colour/read/craft on the sofa next to me while I BF so I could be with them both. I had terrible mum guilt about her watching too much TV while my partner worked away but now he’s nearly 4 months and it’s getting easier x

You’re not alone mama, mum guilt is so real and upsetting. My little girl turned 2, two weeks after my boy was born in March. She did not take well to his arrival at all and I was distraught, crying every day at how sad she was and so guilty I couldn’t spend quality one on one time with her. 7 months on and I still have guilt days but he’s he has started crawling and she’s now taking an interest in him, it’s been a slow burn 😂 and I still feel guilty that he is my main focus and that we can’t do the things we used to (toddler classes etc) at the moment but I know in time it will be so lovely to have a close age gap and once they’re on the same sort of schedule things will get much easier. I made the decision to put my little girl into nursery a few more days a week, she loves it there and they can give her the attention she needs in the short term. Hang in there, it does get better xx

@Shenel thank you love. Gorgeous kids ! 🤍

@Elizabeth thank you hun xx

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