Giving birth while toddle will be at home!
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I had this same issue when I had a section 7 months ago! I think they know what they’re doing, they just choose not to help! My advice would be not to stress too much, I know it’s hard but I just saw it as, as long as my son was clean, warm, happy and had a full belly then that’s all that matters. I got re admitted to hospital after too for nearly a week so I was a wreck but I worried so much for nothing, he was absolutely fine 😊
We did the same, my toddler stayed home with dad while I was in the hospital 3 days/ 3 nights! Luckily mine was more hands on before so it was fine but I’d highly recommend just doing a few nights together to show him everything then a ‘trial run’ him on his own. I think if it’s his very first time while you’re in hospital that will only be so much more stressful
Your husband needs to get involved now while you’re around to answer any queries, then it won’t be such a shock to the system.
Got lots of time to practice.
My husband tried to give him a bath and he just kept saying ‘mama mama’ and even when he tried to take him outside he wouldn’t go without me. I tried to reassure him and say ‘I’m just going to change and I’ll join you’ but he refused to leave unless I was with him…
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What do you mean he wouldn’t go without you? He’s 2 years old and you are the adults. I’m all for giving kids choices but when it comes to who is looking after him, he also needs to get used to you not being around. He needs to learn that he is safe with his dad and he won’t do that if you’re always there to placate him.
Start small by working in dad taking over tasks. Diaper changes here and there. Being the one to dress him. Eventually, work up to dad putting him to sleep. With new baby coming, dad will need to do bedtime for at least the first couple of weeks while you recover from surgery. So start now. Our routine as we prep for baby #2 is doing bedtime every other night (trade off). It helps immensely with his confidence for handling the toddler stuff and gives my pregnant body a break. And sets us up for success when new baby is here.
Start now with getting your husband to do things so he is more confident with it when you are in hospital and when you come home and need the help. If you have a C-section you will need him to do a lot in the 6 wks afterwards especially with your 2 yr old.