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Husband commenting about other women?

My husband never used to do it but after 3 years he started commenting every now and then about other women's bodies so I don't know how to feel. All my life I have been insecure about my very small and saggy boobs and he told me a few times things like: "Every man loves boobs" Or "The bigger boobs the better", so I know that that's what he likes and I don't have it. But a few times he recently made a comment about some woman on the street: "OMG, did you see how big her boobs are?" And was laughing and ws telling me that he just finds it ridiculous, not attractive. And today I was talking to my friend and she told me that she is usually size L but had to buy herself a size 16 top (same one as me but I bought it in size 8) and he said, yes it's because she couldn't fit her boobs in. I got very upset and he said, come on, it's just because she has like 7 children. And I said, no she has 3 and I have 2. Impulsively I told him that my friend's husband has a big dick. And my husband goes: "Don't do that, I just said it because it's really visible!" And I said: "Well, his dick is really visible too" and he said: "Why are you hurting me?" Ladies, please tell me if it's just my horrible insecurity but I am literally so not okay with it, to the point that this puts me off sex for weeks because I don't want to show myself naked to him after...

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They always hate it when it's turned onto them don't they. If he doesn't want you making comments about other men's bodies, he shouldn't be commenting on other women's bodies, it's as simple as that. With that though, all boob sizes are perfect, try not to let his comments affect how you feel about your own body. I'm part of the itty bitty club and no one has ever complained 😅

Y’all are both in the wrong (although I understand you were trying to make a point). You need to have a conversation with him about your insecurities and that you do not want to hear him commenting on women’s bodies.

I agree with @Naomi You need to communicate with him directly about what you feel when he comments on other women's bodies so that he knows and hopefully stops doing it. If he doesn't and continues to make you feel insecure, then I would say to take the steps that you feel is necessary going forward.

I feel like it’s sort of common sense to not say to your wife “the bigger the boobs the better”. That comment would have me sayin the bigger the dick the better cause it shouldn’t even have to be pointed out what he said was wrong. I’m sorry your man’s being a jerk.

@bri🤍 He said it once during a conversation where I tried to convince myself that I am happy with my naturally small boobs by saying that there are some men that specifically like small ones and was pushing him to agree with me and then he said that he personally always liked big ones and he thought that all men do. That was very early on in our relationship where I had to learn not to ask my husband something I don't want the painful truth to😞

@Stephanie He knows too well about my insecurities because I talk about them frequently, especially because the last year I have been always telling him my plan to get a boob lift and augmentation to be more satisfied with myself and he always tried talk me out of it because "he likes me how I am" but these kind of comments make me not believe him and grow my insecurities more

He shouldn't even need you to point out that it's making you feel uncomfortable, he should already know this, he obviously does its just common sense. He sounds horrible. He also can't speak for "every man" just like we can't speak for "every woman" I know I don't like certain things that my friends do and vice versa. It's disrespectful and hurtful what he is doing. He should never make you feel like you need to change how you look to please him especially when you more than likely are exactly how he got with you. If he don't like it he should bugger off

This makes me really sad for you. This would clearly hurt most women’s feelings. I don’t agree with what you’ve done back but I do understand why you’ve done it and that you don’t actually mean it like he does. I think it’s something I’d do too! You need to express how you feel and not just laugh it off as he’ll think it’s okay to do. One thing I can say about my partner is that he has always always made me feel sexy and attractive in my body (even tho I absolutely hate my body and say I look like a teenage boy😂) He’s the biggest class clown, centre of attention and bullies me (jokingly) yet he would never in a million years slate my body or my insecurities. That is the absolute bare minimum and you deserve that too!🫶

That sucks! I'm sorry. He definitely knows better then. I don't blame you for making the comment back, and if it were me, I would have told him that's exactly how it feels when he makes the comments be makes. But honestly, I would start thinking about how I would like for my life to look like and if it is worth sticking around if I'm made to feel like shit.

@Ebony Rose My husband also. He worships my body and always makes sure I know how much he loves it but obviously doesn't think twice sometimes before he speaks

I was gonna say you should also comment on other men exactly the same way he does. But you have already lol so good on ya 🤣 i would make my man cry with my cone backs if he tries that game with me. but it's hurtful to you so you should tell him to fckn stop that nonsense.

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