Losing the will to live 🫠
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I'm just finding it really upsetting atm and sometimes I feel like I've aided in his behaviour because of my anxieties since having him. I've got no one to vent to like I would have before, I'm finding it very lonely x
The premise of the book is that you and your child are both "good inside" and you're both just navigating each others emotions. It's very easy to be hard on yourself but tantrums are completely developmentally normal. Would recommend giving it a read
I'll have a look, thank you X
We've just been through something very similar! It lasted a couple of weeks and now is over. Still having a few tantrums and some strops, but nothing like it was! We stopped going to baby groups and everything because we got constant looks and comments. Apparently there is a developmental leap around this age so it could well be that little one is overwhelmed from that. Keep holding onto your sanity, you arent alone!! I'm a single mum of an only child and I would honestly say he's spent most of his life verging on having perfect behaviour, however crazy that sounfs. But the recent blip send me stir crazy! I felt like such a bad mum, a failure at everything, exhausted, wound up etc. I kept reminding myself hes a little person with big emotions. You've got this, good luck! Also my little boy doesn't go to nursery or anything, so is with me full time. So definitely not learned behaviour in our situation.
My son isn't really tantruming atm but he is in a pushing phase, which is just mortifying! Can relate to the judgement from other Mums 🙃 just praying that these things are short-lived!
@Sky I hope it is just a developmental thing I don't think I could handle him being like this all the time! I do think some of it is learnt as he was so good before starting with a childminder (obviously like any child he had his moments). He's always been a good boy but could be very 'excitable' I wouldn't say he was overly naughty but atm his behaviour is just upsetting everyone and I feel like I'm telling him off all the time x
@Georgia so embarrassing isn't it!! He's always been a hugger and sometimes could hug another child and accidentally knock them over but now he's just blatantly hitting them and for no reason. It's only been his cousin's that I've seen but it's still embarrassing. I asked his childminder what he's been like with her as I don't always see her due to not actually picking him up but she hasn't got back to me 🙄
I'm reading Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy at the moment which is helping us have strategies for dealing with tantrums and boundary testing. I felt completely overwhelmed by it all, but there are some strategies in that book which can help. You're definitely not alone.