Calling all Christians for your honest opinion on this.

So I’m a single mom of course just had my baby two weeks ago. I took the baby to church today. I was so happy and so proud to be in church with my son. I’ve always imagined the day that I stand up in church and dedicate my children to God I went to the pastor. I was so proud and so happy I introduced him to the baby and asked about how do I go about getting dedicated? pastor asked if I was married to the dad I said No. did he ask if the dad is even around I said no… Pastor guy tried to uncomfortable and was like yeah I’m really sorry but we don’t do dedications publicly if you’re not married because it’s such a bad example . We can do a dedication, but it would have to be in private when nobody is around. I wasn’t shameful for being a single mom when I walked into church, but when I walked out, I was bawling my eyes out . I don’t know if I should be upset at the pastor or not a part of me understands from the biblical standpoint. But the other biblical standpoint says that Jesus accepts us for the way we are, and preaches all about love and acceptance, so I’m very confused and heartbroken Any takes on this? Ty
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This is 100% not okay. A baby dedication is about promising before God and the congregation that you will raise your child to know the Lord. And that the church will come alongside you in helping to raise your child to know Jesus. That's something they should want. Honestly, I'd find a new church if this happened to me.

Disgusting!! And this is why I am not religious. How hypocritical!!!!!!

I am not religious but that is awful behaviour making feel that way! Love and acceptance all the way ❤️ You deserve better and should find a new church

This is not the church for you. Find a church of love. That was really disgusting.

That’s horrible and I am so so sorry that you were treated that way. When my fiancé and I had our daughter we obviously weren’t married yet haha still not but we will be soon. The pastor of my church knew that (didn’t ask just knew) and dedicated my daughter proudly and with excitement to begin her walk with the lord. Jesus accepts everyone as they are and if your church cannot do the same they are not walking with the Lord. I’m so sorry that happened to you and I hope you find a place that will love and cherish the amazing Mom that you are!

And this is why after years as a youth minister and devout Christian I left the church but not my faith. That is not of God.

I’m from the UK but would immediately be finding a new church!

the is terrible!!! find a church that cares more about your dedication to god instead of how they “look”. you are NOT a bad example. i’m so sorry he said that to you!

I’m sorry that happened to you. I would encourage you to find another church. You should always be welcome. Scripture says children are a heritage from the Lord. The should be no shame and dedicating your baby to the Lord is a good thing. Churches are still full of sinful people remember. I encourage you to pray about finding a new church for you and your baby to grow in together and get baby dedicated there 🤍

Find a better church. This is not a representation of good Christian Church.

He would have to show me the Bible scripture on that. That doesn’t sound right. What does a baby being dedicated to God have to do with being unmarried? This is weird. Def find a new church because what else are they capable of there. What was the denomination?

Go to a different church I wouldn’t want to be apart of it it’s that’s how they act. There are plenty of churches that are actually accepting and following Jesus’ word they clearly are not

@Jem I’m pretty sure it’s not denominational. I literally have never heard of not being able to have a baby dedication because I’m not married or with the father at the moment. I’m still in shock.

I would highly recommend finding a new church. I am so sorry this happened.

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I’m shocked! As a Christian I find that completely unacceptable and would be looking for a new church.

I think find a new church. You should feel welcomed and loved for who you are.

I see where the pastor is coming from. Do I believe the way he acted was right or that you shouldn’t be allowed to dedicate your child, NO! The Bible says come as you are and I’m sorry that some people forget this and treat people this way!

I’ve never heard of this. The churches I went to would allow this totally and have

what an awful church you go to, dedicating your baby to God has absolutely nothing to do with your personal circumstance i’m so sorry your pastor is mean and couldn’t see how wonderful you are for wanting to walk in faith with your son we’re christians too and i’ve never been to a church that’s disrepectful like that… i would definitely be finding another church to attend

Horrible. Look for another church.

What a horrible experience for you. That pastor has really done the wrong thing. How judgemental and un-Christ-like. I'd find a new church to attend and approach them about doing the dedication.

What denomination is the crazy church?

Protestant? Based on reference to 'pastor' not priest I am guessing? It sounds very conservative/ living in a different century.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, but he certainly does. I'd make a complaint higher up in the church organisation/diocese.

Yet another example of why religion is the root of all troubles…. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your baby. X

@Julia it’s nobody denomination Christian. What’s crazy is the old pastor used to be the head of Latin kings gang, and turned his life around I don’t think he would have told me this, this guy has been pastor for 2-3 years I think and doesn’t have a background really

That’s not a great church .. I would go somewhere more accepting

I’m so sorry lovely. I feel like there are other churches where you would be welcomed with open arms. I had a similar experience in the Catholic Church when they wouldn’t let me join communion because I was confirmed in a non Catholic Church! Jesus would never turn any of us away so it’s a joke people in the church do this.

Thats stupid

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