AITA? Cleaning up grown man’s puke
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@Laurie he claims he had food poisoning. Idk for sure as I am fine but we went to a buffet and didn’t eat the same food. So he very well might have had food poisoning. He ate a ton of sea food, I however did not. Regardless I feel like I enable him to not clean up his mess because for him he only looks at the top not at the bottom where his puke made a mess on the toilet seat…like it’s gross. If you puke, look around and clean up. Honestly being a man seems to easy.
The shitting in the shower is disgusting and on another level, I don’t think you’re the ass.
@Pam yeah…I just cleaned everything and if it happens again…it will be a big issue atp
People like him bore me. He saw it, and didn’t care. Don’t clean it. He must clean it himself.
My man was one of those people who make a mess and leave it like that. I stood my ground. Now when he makes a mess, he cleans it. I can’t stand people who act like that. Mostly it’s because their mothers used to clean up after them so now they think it’s a woman’s job to clean up after their azzz.
You are absolutely not wrong! If it sat there all night, it can sit a little longer for him to wake his ass up and clean it properly. Unless he has a physical disability, there is no reason a grown man can’t clean is own shit and vomit! This done pissed me off 😂😂
If he was still really sick and it needed to be cleaned so my child or myself could use a clean bathroom then I would clean it. But I guess the difference is I know he would do it for me because when I had hypermesis my whole pregnancy he cleaned up my puke when I couldn’t and didn’t need to be nagged to do so or thanked profusely it’s just what you do when your loved one is unwell. But like I said - that’s a two way street. Idk if yours is a two way street which is a problem
@Pam, you say that like he made the deliberate choice to poop in there and not on the toilet. The poor guy is obviously violently ill.
Was he still sick? If so, then I would clean it. If not, and we have another bathroom, then he will be cleaning as it is his bathroom until further notice. The other one is mine and our sons. Talk to him and tell him you are done, and this is what's happening if he doesn't pull his weight and stick to those boundaries.
Eww I wouldn’t clean up another adult’s sick! I’d just about do it for my child, let alone an adult. My husband had a violent sick bug recently and he didn’t miss the toilet or bin once, even though it came on so quickly each time. Then be cleaned out all the bins and the bathroom the day after when he was still feeling a bit crappy. He should be doing it himself, you’re not his mum!
@Hannah who cares if he did it deliberately or not, he needs to clean up his own shit and vomit, period. He’s a grown man. Some people are ok with cleaning it up, some are not and that’s their choice.
I would do it for my husband because I know that if he got to that point he was certainly dead sick. He is not a pig and he also would clean up after me if I was very sick too. W are in a loving relationship and a real partnership. I would totally understand you don't want to do it because you maybe don't have a real partnership with him. And that's totally ok. He can clean up.
I’m sure she’s in a loving relationship, but she just doesn’t want to clean up his sick and diarrhoea
@Pam, where did I say he didn't have to clean it? However, if he was still violently ill, then as a loving partner, I would clean it for him. If I need to use the bathroom and he is still violently ill, then I would do it also for my own hygiene.
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@Montana, congrats to your partner. I've been violently ill and made a mess. Just because your husband didn't doesn't mean it doesn't happen. I was able to clean up after myself, not everyone can. It depends on how sick they are, other symptoms, level of fatigue, etc
@Hannah no one said you said he didn’t have to clean it. I’m making a statement, whether this man did it deliberately or not he needs to clean up his vomit and shit himself. That’s my opinion. And the “loving partner” innuendo, can be left out. As some else said, OP is likely in a loving relationship but she just don’t want to clean up throw up and shit behind a grown man.
@Pam, yes, but you brought that up. It was never a question until you mentioned it. Also, no, I won't leave it out. If my partner is too ill to clean the bathroom, I will. Because I love him and will look after him. As I also said, especially if it's our only bathroom. Context is important. If they have more than one, she can close the door and leave it a day or 2 in hopes he is well enough to clean. If not, and he is sick and unable to, then she needs to clean it. This is my opinion.
@Hannah really? You @ me. And come on, let’s keep it real by throwing in the “loving partner” bit there is an insinuation that anyone who’s not gonna clean up there partners sick doesn’t really love them. But that’s cool, couple things I won’t do. clean up a grown man’s vomit, shit or go back and forth on an app with a stranger.
@Pam, I did, and I never denied that. You were acting like he made the deliberate choice to poop in the shower, and I responded to that. I am keeping it real. If my partner is too sick to clean the damn toilet, then I will. I'm not letting our only toilet stay like that until he feels better because that is a hazard to his health, my health, and the health of our son, but go off. That last thing you won't do, you've already done.
You want a sick person to clean up after themselves? What the fuck is wrong with you? Jesus crist
I hope he sees how uncaring you are and divorces your ass
@Samantha says the woman that’s divorced. We’re not married, he can leave me anytime. When you have a special needs child when the mfer don’t even do anything with his child! He has all this damn extra time, he can clean up after himself, and start cleaning up some toys. He’s not helpless and he’s not a baby. He’s a 29 working on 30 yr old man. He’s grown and can take care of his own shit. Plus, I’m not doing a damn thing for anyone besides my son that can’t do it himself. Call your ex and figure it out since you’re so submissive. Wonder why that marriage failed… Also come on over, got a grown ass man for you to take care of 😐🙄
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Incognito, if he doesn't do anything and you dislike him, why are you with him?
He should absolutely clean it up himself. I wouldn't expect anyone else to clean up after me. Is he unwell or drunk?