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Super angry violent boy
Hi! Stay at home mom here looking for advice or even a "you're not alone"!
My son is currently 9 years old and just always so angry about everything and anything! He doesn't even talk anymore it's all yelling and accusing everyone of lying to him or of being mean to him when all we do is try to guide and parent him. I'm doing gently parenting, but sometimes I just want to swat his little booty because of the way he talks to me. I know his dad (separate households) does timeouts and sometimes swats him, and every time I talk to dad about it, he says, "He doesn't act like that here" and tells me to spank him more and take more of his stuff away and I have. He is down to some books and his bed in his room and I just am at the end of my rope.
Just yesterday I was helping him with a school project and told him to slow down on his writing/coloring because he was getting sloppy and wanted a good grade and he screamed at me for "scaring" him slammed his hand on the table and stormed off.... it's just a lot for me to handle and could use some help.
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I would say I'm hard on my kids but I always circle back around and explain the what where when and why. Always tell them I love them and that I hate having to punish them but I just want them to be good people.
Maybe something deeper is going on with school or friends? We are dealing with similar behaviors and I would ask your child’s guidance counselor to pull him for an extra curricular activity and start to build a relationship where you kiddo would feel comfortable talking about things he wouldn’t be comfortable talking about otherwise. We have done similar with our son and it’s worked open him up a bit and allows for that early intervention.
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Is he used to you correcting him then praising him. It sounds like he is only focused on the negative side of things being said. One time my 13 year old was being kinda moody which she is hardly every. I asked what was worng and she rolled her eyes and said nothing. I told her I could tell something was wrong. She got loud and said "nothing is wrong". I got loud and told her "dont yell at me. I know something is wrong because I know you and it's not fair to me that your yelling at me when all I'm doing is asking. You being a jerk isn't going to solve anything so tell me what wrong or we can keep fighting" she started crying and said she didn't do very good on a test she study for and it was important that she do well. I huge her and told her I was sorry. she stressed herself over on a test i told her it would be okay and if she tried her best she should be happy with that always. We hug more and she went back to her happy self.