Weaponized Incompetence or am I a Nag
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@Lyss 😢 definitely probably true he literally just said this is who he is and he cant change
I am sorry you are having to deal with. Know that it isn’t you. You aren’t a nag. You got into the relationship wanting a partner not a grown man child. If you ever need to talk about it you can message me!
there’s not much you can do about a man child unfortunately. i would suggest writing him lists and basically telling him that you aren’t going to answer any questions, so he will have to get on with it on his own. but also try and talk to him about it, say how the kids and housework are a joint responsibility, it doesn’t matter if he goes out and works, he also chose to get a house and get you pregnant, so maintaining everything is on him too.
My fiancé is older than me by 13 years. What I learned from that is, he expected me to know and be good at everything he is. He forgets that his life experience trumps mine by a thousand. Even little things like… making a steak. He has this great way of doing it that apparently everyone in the world knew but me. I told him he has to have patience, I’m still learning, my life experience is still growing! I learn so much from my fiance though so that seems different than your case. It seems here he expects you to know everything, whether that be because he’s a man child or because he simply has more life experience I can’t answer that. You know him best. The good news is he seems willing to help (going to store, starting dinner) so I would write him lists of things you need help with. “Vacuum and mop the kitchen” “wipe down the bathroom” and go from there. 🩷
Sound alike y'all just not compatible, some people ask a million questions because it's apart of their personality and as it may have been easier for you to overlook in the past maybe now it's a pet peeve for you. Also the SAHM thing falls under you guys just not wanting the same things anymore. He wants a woman that works , you want to be a SAHM nothing wrong with either perspective. It all comes down to what you're willing to tolerate and accommodate for each other. look at it as a whole picture instead of one sided. If your under all that stress I can relate as a mom and a woman in general it's stressful and overwhelming and most times we take that out on dad but at the end of the day it's not right. Check yourself and I commend u for apologizing after you realized u were being disrespectful but we're all grown here. Discipline yourself , and run your house like the boss I know you are 💯 you gone be a SAHM execute that 💩, and if you need detailed assistance I'm open to giving u guidance just message me
Thank yOu all! i sat down and explained it to him. he definitely wants to be helpful but seems like he doesnt want to make a mistake and upset me. i am also super overwhelmed and short tempered right now. Taking all the great tips!
Imo men that much older with a much younger partner is because he isn’t mature enough to find someone his own age to date him cuz he isn’t mature enough and is just a king baby. So he instead manipulated you into a relationship and locked you in with kids so you can’t leave. He will never grow up cuz if he hasn’t now he never will. You deserve someone who respects you and doesn’t use you for labor.