what would you do?
Show your support
I asked to see the account, I do not have access, and he refused to show me.
Then I’d say he’s hiding something. Because if it was indeed spending food, then he’d have no issue showing you and proving such. Not to mention, it’s not too far of an assumption that if this was indeed the truth of where the money was going, then he would’ve said something after month 1. He’s hiding what he’s spending it on. Have you noticed any odd behavior from him? Not home as much? Weird with his phone? Have you noticed any new things in your home? Because, if there isn’t anything new, then he’s spending it on someone else or something
I agree! He's always had a big issue with giving family money to the point where we have none left. His behavior is definitely more odd than usual, too. I'm just stuck and not too sure what to do. Obviously, he's not being honest with me, that story was definitely bullshit.
Do you work? Is there any other income aside from his, that you can use to pay the mortgage?
I do work, and I'm lucky I have some saved, but I still can't wrap my head around this.
I would assume he is cheating
If he can’t pay the mortgage then he shouldn’t be allowed to live there. But I’d say get your ducks in a row. You deserve better. Do you have kids? If so, is he the father?
@Becky, we have 2 kids together. And we both have full time jobs. I'm looking into a private investigator now but am unsure of the rates.
Has he ever been abusive in any way? If you move forward with either an investigation or calling him out, do you think he’d do anything to you or the kids?
Do you have access to the account? If it is indeed food riding then look up the accounts that you use to order from, get receipts and compare to the account transactions. I can’t fathom how, but if you’re spending that much on takeout….theres a problem.