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i nanny a 4 month old since she was 3 days old. and i have a 17 month old son. he gets jealous at times and does act up when im not giving him my full attention. i honestly try ti find things that excite him to distract him from throwing a fit while im busy feeding the baby. like “oh, where is your blanket?” then he’ll try to go look for it. or if his favorite snack is within reach, i will just grab it for him. that usually hold him up for 15 minutes. i find that when you spend time with them while the baby is napping, they tend to listen more. i’ll read to him, play with him.. like chasing him cause he loves that. and just taking him out on the patio. or we play puzzle games on my phone. i heard instead of yelling, try asking them if they want to do an activity or have a snack.. basically anything that excites them like i said above. it is really hard trying not to yell though so i get it.. its all we millennials were ever taught.

you can also have him help you with the baby so it makes him feel included. like give the baby a pacifier or giving the baby a bath.

Get him involved with baby as much as you can. Get him a backpack gift from baby. And spend some one on one time with him when you can ❤️

Im battling that as well i have 7month old and 5 yr old boys

Girl i completely understand! I’m 4 month postpartum with my second and this behavior with my first is constantly also taking a toll on me. It gets so frustrating. We try everything but it continues. Sometimes i get so worked up but one thing i realized is when Im frustrated at him I just give him a big hug. I hug him and sometimes i hug him tight. And it brings us both down for a moment. It’s like a reset. Other than that I’m still trying to figure it out.

I’ve not been in your position but a friend of mine made a point of telling baby to wait a moment while mummy does XYZ for big sister. Obviously the baby doesn’t get it but the older child could see that sometimes it was their turn for mum to do things with them and other times they had to wait for Mum to do things with the baby instead. It seemed to help, maybe a similar approach could help your son transition to having another little one around? It’s all very new and will take you all some time, be gentle on each other xx

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Same here with my two year old. Youngest just turned nine weeks yesterday.

I’ve tried everything listed in these comments. 🥲😆sometimes it works and sometimes at the end of the day a two year old is going to be a two year old and want his or her way.

It's really difficult... But what @Sharnee mentioned. We tried this with our older kid and it's been working. He really wants to help and it's adorable.

I talked to my son. I told him since he’s a big boy now he has to do big boy things like no more pacifiers sleeping in a toddler bed. I made him feel special. Also make sure you get enough time with your oldest so he doesn’t feel like you don’t love only new baby. Also since you have a 2 year old. Ask for their help. Make them feel involved, like bring that to mommy and then clap and reward them for doing a good job. My 3 are all 10 months apart and I just had my littlest one yesterday. But that has been my experience between the 2 of my oldest.