Idk this gives me the vibe that he’s just using mental health issues to get away with being a shitty person. Is he in therapy and actively trying to improve or has he just been love bombing you?
Just because he has health anxiety it doesn’t excuse him from parenting. We all have to get on with it and do our part, that’s what being a parent is all about. You don’t get to duck out when it gets hard. I agree with the above comment it sounds like he’s using it as an excuse.
@Djena true sometimes I’ve been in that position too. But I just didn’t like the fact that he said I’m putting these things in his head
@Lyss @Chloe I honestly don’t know. He says his right sides numb etc and can’t do things suddenly. But then when he’s angry he walks so fast! He’s saying he’s trying to ignore the pains etc. I don’t know
I would be upset, but I think acknowledging that what you're feeling is probably a number of factors adding up rather than this one statement (that may but probably does not have truth to it). Often it's how you say things rather than what you say, but if it was just a gentle reminder it's possible he's just being sensitive given his anxiety. Sometimes in the past when I've been in a tough place I've easily mistaken someone trying to help as a criticism, it's easy to do. Either way it sounds like you have loads on your plate