SAHM do you get an “allowance” from hubby at all?
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absolutely ask for it!! i’d ask for more if it’s in the budget honestly.
I get $500 every pay period (biweekly). Most of that goes towards savings, occasionally I’ll use it to treat myself. It’s definitely seen as my salary for caring for our family while he works. I don’t get how it could be seen as unreasonable for wanting walking around money
My husband gives me money every week for food shopping and he also gives me additional money to get through the week if there is anything I need if I want to go out with friends buy things but this is all budgeted. he takes care of our bills. If there is anything else additional that I want or need that is not within that budget I just ask him but I also have his credit card on my Apple Pay for emergencies as well. If ur a SAHM and ur husband doesn’t already give u money how do buy things? I think it’s more than reasonable to ask for 20 a week I would actually think it reasonable to ask for a lot more than that but it also needs to be discussed and within ur means for both of ur needs. I hope this helps x
My husband added me to his bank account and gave me my own card with my name on it so he didn’t have to keep leaving it at home for me. That being said I don’t spend willy nilly I am very mindful and I do check in with him not because he’s my boss but because it’s the respectful thing to do and he does the same. If anything he tells me to spend less on our daughter and more on myself😂
No he brings In the money and I spend it the bills, anything for him, the kids and house, myself .. he pays a couple utility bills. I’m the financial manager. I’m the one who added him to my accounts and my credit cards he asks me if we have money to get stuff. lol
I keep my own bank account and also have a few credit cards on my own. I pay most of the utilities from my account but he sends me money biweekly. It’s like I get a real paycheck from the money he sends me. I use extra money to pay my credit cards for things that I want to buy. We also have some joint credit cards we share that I use for groceries/ other necessities that he pays for.
My husbands paycheck goes into a joint account, I pay the bills and set our budget. All money is shared, we discuss big purchases but otherwise you spend what you need. I think it’s more than fair to expect some sort of access to money. You aren’t a child, you’re an equal partner.
No. He works and his funds are placed into a joint bank account that I essentially control. All funds that enter and exit our home are controlled by me . I am in charge of all purchases for my family and I. He has access to all accounts but he’s not into managing them, he can’t be bothered with it. This is our presence.
I have a card to his acc it’s joint mine is pink. I spend on me the kids the house, all finances and bills and groceries is all him so my spending is social and hobby spending. He’s never complained that I spend too much daily it’s just entry for places, lunch, petrol. And yeah I buy whatever hobby stuff I want, on the weekends I spend it out w gfs so social spending for me. I don’t ask or tell him what I buy but every couple months I do tell him to expect a huge shein box lol topping up on my hobby supplies and new dresses and shoes. I couldn’t survive on $20/w I’m a sahm who’s barely ever home
I just use the card when I need something. No set amount. But I never go crazy. And we each tell eachother if we’d like to buy something a little pricier
Everything is joint. I don’t have to ask for money.
I have access to our account so if I need/want something I usually just buy it, if it’s a big purchase I’ll talk to him about it. I don’t get an allowance though, I just use our money.
We have a joint account. I think it's financial abuse to not give a sahm access to your money. You shouldn't have to ask your husband like you're a child to buy anything. Obviously, big purchases should be discussed together. But in my opinion if you have to ask for $20 a week that's financial abuse.
Ask? I don’t ask. We have a joint account. All spending and bills come from there. Anything over $500 we talk to each-other about it.
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My husband and I have a joint account, and I have my own card and everything. If I want something I just buy it. If it is more than $70, I just run it by him, and he does the same with me.
I pressed the wrong one xx yes, absolutely I think it’s fair to ask xxx
I don’t get a set allowance whenever I need something or need money I let him know and he either gets it for me or gives me his card
my husband and i don’t have a joint account but we go by japanese cultural standards, when he gets his paycheck he deposits the whole thing into my account, i give him allowance from that. usually the wife manages everything within the home including money, he gets to just buy whatever he wants with allowance but it’s usually still a surprise/present for me lol :,) after organizing the money for bills, savings etc i get to use whatever on my myself or going out, or i get my husband gifts too
No we don’t do an allowance his money is mine and vise versa if I did work lol. We share the same bank account. If I want something I buy it if I need something I buy it as long as we have the money and don’t have bills due. I usually manage the money anyhow as he doesn’t have time to deal with it lol.
How can anyone say “no you don’t earn it”? Is $20 per week.
I have his card .. and he occasionally gives me money! Girl ask for it you deserve it
We have a joint account so I can use the money on the account. Without asking him anything
No because I’m not his child—he’s my child 🤪🤪jokesssss We get OUR paycheck and pay what needs to be paid off. We always adjust $200 for me and $200 for him in cash. This is strictly for selfishness (nails, new outfits, snacks..whatever). But if I’m over the $200 and want something for myself I’ll get it. But I’m also not a dumb ass hole. I’ll obviously think about. “Oh we need to replace the roof in a few months”…then no. I’m using our money on necessities so we can pay off this roof replacement. because who wants to be in crippling debt over miscellaneous bullshit (fast food or new clothing)? Not me. High interest rates will also get you. Once we are in the clear and then sure, I’ll stop at Starbucks and get something for myself and the kids.
To the girls saying she didn’t earn it… Being a full time mother is a fucking job. She is literally saving the family money by staying home and proving childcare and doing chores around the house. People hire others to cook, clean, do their laundry, watch their kids, ect. But if a mother stays home and does that for “free” and provides this round the clock convenience…it’s not a job.???????????? Make this makes sense. Girls, you work too. I’m sure you put in more hours than he does, because being a sahm doesn’t end. 5pm hits and you’re still working. No PTO. No HR for when the kids emotionally and physically attack you. You pull night shifts. And don’t get me started on when they’re sick…that’s a whole ass job. Get your damn money girl. Don’t ask for it because it’s equally your money.
@S. annalese exactly! And it’s not like she can take off ! She deserves that money! Being a stay home mom is harder than having another job.. thank you .. you said it perfectly
We have a joint account, so all money is our money. We used to have a rule that we had to talk about ant purchases over $50. But we recently bought a new (to us) SUV for me & we're going to be moving in less than 6 months. So we mow discuss all spending until it's gas or groceries.
Girl if you can afford it, I really hope your husband is giving you way more than 20$ a week. My husband and I get the same amount from his paycheck to spend on whatever we want. We then pay the bills and everything else goes into savings... Definitely way more than 20$/wk I don't think you should think of it as "I do x y and z, I deserve money" rather you two are a household/team with one source of income. How is it fair that you get none of that?
@S. annalese As a sahm PREACH IT!! I’m so glad I have a husband who praises what I do and even says “your job is harder than mine” because idk what I’d do if he didn’t. I’m tired of this notion that we do nothing or “it’s what we all do” no you send your kids to school for 7 hours a day while you work and your home is untouched is not the same as me being at home with mine and cleaning the same mess 10 times in one day, meal planning and prepping, dishes, laundry, errands, so much more. We wake up on the clock and we go to sleep on the clock!
Ask to have access to the account too, you need to know the state of the household finances, make sure all is paid for, no hidden debt. And if he can, more than $20/week. Save money on your side too, you never know what can happen
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When I was a sahm I didn’t get any spending money as I didn’t earn it. And that was my choice. Plus what would I spend it on? I’m with baby 24/7 there’s no time for myself 🙈
My husband gives me money for my son and I weekly. $100 each, which is for random things but I honestly don’t always spend it. My husband pays for all of our necessities so I don’t really need to buy anything but it is nice to be able to buy something if i did want to. A little money to buy yourself something isn’t bad.
You do all the care work and all the work in the house. In my eyes this is a full-time job! So 80$/month... his money should be your money regardless.
I get $150 a week for spending money
I don’t ask. If I need something or want something, I just let him know. We budget for miscellaneous things each month so it usually just comes from that.
My husband saids “we got paid” everytime his check hits lmao never been a just my money type man I’m college educated and we both chose for me to stay home I love it and he loves it for me lol so he definitely makes sure I never need anything or want anything at home at all and I have access to all the money so ✨🤷🏾♀️
I have a credit card under his account but it’s for the every day/necessities. We agreed on 100$ a month on my free spending, so he doesn’t ask questions it’s just whatever I want/don’t necessarily “need.”