This feels so inconsiderate to me..

My man does this a lot…he enjoys back rubs etc but I swear he asks like as I’m trying to fall asleep like legit will ask AFTER I lay down on my stomach and get comfortable. I would hope he knows I’m exhausted because I try to get up as much as I can to pump or if not then I’m feeding the baby getting up for work etc. Also just now in mmm legit falling asleep and mention how I have to set an alarm to pump and then he decides to start touching me and get himself hard. I explained I’m tired and he got on top of me and did his thing. I just laid there. It makes me so sad. Yes I understand I should say no but it is disheartening that I even have to do that. Why can’t he see this and just have the decency to leave me alone in these moments? I don’t ever ask much of him day to day and while we both work i do much more than that. LIKE HELLO??????? It just feels sooo selfish to me.

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It is selfish. It's rape I really hope you're ok and have some support

Wtf. Why are you letting him do it? It's wrong. Did you tell him no? Please set some boundaries or, if he's forcing himself get help.

Really think this conversation with him is unavoidable. Its selfish what he's doing but do you think you are able to explain this properly to him? Maybe some boundaries? If not then I'm sorry, I hope you're okay. I know people who are dying for a massage from their husbands and never gets them, with Christmas coming up I've heard of alot of people doing "vouchers" to their loved ones for things like babysitting, massages, I was going to suggest that but maybe it's not that kind of situation.

@Georgia the way I massage this man at least once A day, walk up while he’s eating and massage him etc. can he just not ask right as I am trying to get some rest finally?

Mine would do the exact same. Wait until I was fully asleep. It started to make me legitimately hate him. I don’t know why I let him do it for so long- self abandonment? Finally, after the boys were weaned and I had a bit more freedom, I couldn’t take it anymore so I left for a week. Stayed at my bff’s house. When I came back I told him that I don’t want him to touch me after I have fallen asleep nor first thing in the morning. I don’t want it at all during those times and told him how it was making me feel really disgusted towards him. I guess it worked because he stopped. I really, really hated it.

That is absolutely rape. You don’t have to verbally say no for your answer to be no; if it’s not an enthusiastic yes it’s a no. It sounds like he knows what he’s doing and gets a sick pleasure from it; this man is not right in the head and you would be safer far, far away from him. Please seek out some help in your area, because this is abusive behavior. Sending love and light your way 💕

This is so weird like how does he even get off if your not enjoying it 😕 that’s sick

@Stacey 🇵🇸 while I’m not glad you went through that find comfort knowing I’m not alone. It’s really just the utter exhaustion and looking forward to sleep to then have to continue to cater to someone when I do that all day every day it makes you feel like you are nothing more then a fuck toy

@Briana my thoughts

@Bethany I’m letting him do it in a moment of giving up and being so sad that someone who apparently loves me isn’t listening and honoring that I am tired. It truly breaks my heart that my needs aren’t recognized especially as we have sex while we’re both awake it isn’t like our one chance is 2am after I worked ten hours and just fed my baby.

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