Following directions

It’s more important whether baby understands. My son does often do what I say. But either way I know he understands. Pediatrician says it’s less about talking and more about understanding what is said to them. My older son has autism and looking back he never really understood/processed what I was saying. See if baby understands you while you’re playing together. It’s possible she just doesn’t want to listen bc that’s happening around the clock here. But when it’s fun and playful and she wants to you can see what she’s capable of

Sometimes yes , sometimes no.. example if i ask her to come here she comes ,if i tell her close the light or close the fridge (she likes close things 😂) she does.. but there's days that she literally ignores what im saying ..

Can she help you get her shoes or wash her hands or transition type things?

Some days he does most days he doesn’t 😂 I literally had to clap at him all day to get his attention today

I’d keep an eye on it. It could be her personality. My older son was like that and it got worse between 18 months and 2. My little one now almost all the time responds even if it’s with an angry face, a scream or cry or something…but again it’s a different personality as he has always been super observant of everything going on around him

@Julia if its something she wants to do there is a better chance she will understand and do it. But most of the time what she wants to do is not what Im asking her to do. When you say it got worse u mean first he would follow directions and then he stopped? And she doesnt help with getting shoes or washing hands or anything, we have to wrestle to get everything done.

@Julia what other signs did your older son show around the age 18-24 months?

It could be a personality thing. I really thought it was with my first until I realized he responded at times but would hyper focus-spend 15 minutes on a puzzle. He wouldn’t respond when he was focused or when he heard another noise. He didn’t consistently respond to his name. Things like sit down-when he tried to listen it was clear he didn’t understand. So by got worse, he started to have meltdowns. All little ones have tantrums but for him it was due to being unable to communicate and sensory issues I hadn’t yet realized were there (sensitive to clothes, temperature, noise, etc.).

Around that age there’s so many developmental leaps. He didn’t make the same progress as others. Also he knew how to count and abcs and such but stopped being able to say them

We looked into auditory processing disorder too but that’s only diagnosed after 7. But it becomes more clear as they get older. By 2 and 2.5 you can tell if they respond to you and understand you even if they don’t listen

@Julia if I ask her stuff she will respond, like whats this or whats that, or ask her what this or that animal says. But wont really take commands other than no or like you want a snack come here. My MIL said my husband didnt do anything he was asked to do till age of 2-2.5 and he was fine after that. But Im still worried thats why Im asking what other signs. I dont want to miss something and not get her help if she needs it. She does run around a lot and is very active, loves books, can tell me what words the book pages have without being able to read. Doesnt like any puzzles or any toys that need more attention and time. Has a lot of words but doesnt really greet anyone except for her dad. Sometimes she will greet in spanish(which is not our second language- but learned from her nanny) but she wont say hi no matter how much I ask her say hi to grandma or anyone, nothing.

She understands and will usually do what I ask. She can get obstinate. Mostly because she thinks she’s funny, I think.