‘Day off’
Show your support
I’d say if he gets a day off then so do you! Being a default parent isn’t easy at all! For you your job will never end. You don’t get to leave work. I understand and I think an everyone should get these days. My husband works and I’m a SAHM. And if he asked for a day like that I wouldn’t feel off about it. I know it’s hard work. It doesn’t take away your work as a SAHM! But I think you both should benefit regardless. Maybe a break is what you both need to come home refreshed to each other. But I also think you should bring up being a default parent too. It should just be you taking care of the baby. He comes home and is a parent too! But that’s just a side note.
It’s not that he doesn’t want a day without you or your child. It’s that he wants a day free of responsibility. I feel that way sometimes too. I don’t want to not have my child with me but I do want to spend time with her minus being responsible for her because it’s hard work in general to keep a baby alive haha
You both need a day off 😊 so talk about it and decide how you can each make it happen for the other. Do you have family you could stay with? Like you and bub sleep over there so he can have the house to himself? Then the next weekend, he takes bub for a sleepover and YOU get the house to yourself?
Sorry I didn’t see the whole post before voting. I think that you should get a full day off so he can see how hard your day is!!!
My husband says that Sundays are his days off... that pisses me off. But at the end of the day, I cant be bothered to argue about it and just get on with it. But I know how you feel, it's really bloody unfair considering we do EVRRYTHING and they've nothing to worry about 🙄
Being a SAHM is challenging but I would much rather be at home with my baby than working a manual labour job like my fiancé. I understand that every mother’s situation is different but I personally don’t see my time with my baby as “work” in the same sense as my fiancé’s work. Sure, it’s hard, but it’s also a massive privilege. When I need a “day off” I go and stay at my parent’s house for a few days so I get to sleep in and read a book/relax/indulge in other hobbies while my mum and grandma help to look after my 1-year-old. If you have this option, give it a try. You get a bit of a break and so does your fiancé.
You both should offer the other person a day off once a month. Sometimes myself or my husband will let the other person sleep in or just relax upstairs on a weekend morning where we have nothing to do.
If you don’t get a day off then why should he? Parenting and managing a household is 50/50 work when both partners are home.
Thanks eveyone ❤️ I’ll definitely take all your comments on board!
@Ella unfortunately I don’t have that option. I’ll have to think of a day out idea and just let him chill at home for the day whilst we both go out x
@Shannon it really is a challenge! Getting absolutely no time to myself is so draining. I know my fiancé feels the same which is why he’s asked for the ‘day off’. I don’t have the parent / grandparent option which is a real shame, but I’ll have to think of a day trip for just me and my LG so he can have the day to himself. I love that you have this type of support, it’s so special 🥰 x
That is lovely of you BUT make sure you tell him upfront he needs to return the favour!! If he's not physically or psychologically capable of handling baby for 8 hours straight out of the house, then he owes you 4x 2 hour stretches at the park or something.
Recently with a bad sleep regression terrible nights.. I sometimes think be nice to have a day off as I am mentally burnt out from lack of sleep. If my partner asked for a day off I’d be so angry. Suck it up buttercup I’d say
Like you said as the defeat parent you don’t have that luxury even when the other parent is around. When you have kids there are alot of sacrifices and it needs to be balanced. If he gets a day off, then you should get one too! Maybe it’s something you look at doing