I can’t live here anymore ughh

Can you discuss with your partner and make an exit plan? Are you guys able to save for your own place? Sorry you’re having to deal with this it sounds super draining

@Kathryn We’re currently saving up now to get a place of our own. It really is so draining. My husband also gets overwhelmed because instead of talking to her own husband, his grandma will go and rant to him (which i just found out) and then I end up ranting to him so he gets caught in between.

So sorry to hear this. As I first started reading I thought I could balance the argument with well how grandparents and great grandparents will be and how to see it from their perspective but also how not to let them overstep and how to kindly but clearly let them know you know what you're doing ... BUT then I got to the bottom and I realise this isn't a family you can reason with or get through to and nor would you want to I imagine. A few questions : - Are his parents also like this? Can they not have a word with their parents/in-laws? - How does your partner feel? I'm assuming you will be the only one brave enough to speak up. It seems they have been this way all his life bless him. - Do you have some money to put aside for a deposit/getting away from them money? Lastly, put your snacks away, get a safe if you need to. Also, be very careful food wise, be present when they are cooking so they don't knowingly put ingredients in that could affect you and your child if you are breastfeeding.

Take care and give us an update sometime xx

@Sophie His parents are the polar opposite. They always ask me before doing something with the baby, such as giving him sweets or even picking out an outfit, and they are very very respectful of my boundaries. He’s good, he’s just better at controlling his emotions and knows when to not say anything that would cause mainly his grandma to have an outburst and he has spoken up for me multiple times before. We are saving up money right now to get our own place and our end goal is to move out state where his parents are. I’m always there when they cook and granted they try to get me to eat certain things I can’t have and poke fun at the things I eat, they are definitely not the type to put it in my food unknowingly. My son will be 2 this month and we’ve never breastfed. He never wanted to latch on but he has no problems with gluten food items and we’ve made to sure to check and keep an eye and he is in the clear thankfully!

I’m in the same situation. We’re living with grandparents from my partner’s side because 1. We need someone to help look after our little ones as I work full-time 2. We are saving for a house and plan to leave once they’re both in school so we don’t need their help looking after the kids anymore. I’ve learned to just let everything they say go right through my head. I wont say anything back or react unless I absolutely have to I.e certain food habits, clothes and anything that concerns their health really. But comments like it’s cold, why don’t you have socks on, I just completely ignore . If they’re talking too much and making uncomfortable comments regarding anything, I just find some excuse and bring both of my little ones upstairs and stay and play in our room. Or if it’s during the day and the weather is alright then I’d just take them out and get some peace of mind 😅 some elders are really just hard to reason with, and it’s actually mostly because of their age.

Are you able to just keep everything in your room? Get a fridge and microwave and avoid them as much as possible.

@Mariah we would not be able to keep a microwave or fridge in our room, but i will be hiding my snacks him out room