Am I in the wrong for this?

Yeah I would be upset. I’d voice your concern to your husband and obviously he should be there for the birth of your baby.

@Lexi Sewell I told him after he got off the phone with him and I told him it seems very petty. That it's not right for them to do that and his brother didn't event me or our 1st child he said the y'all kid will have to be 1 to be on the cruise

Your husband should unconditionally support you around your due date. Not inviting the child is pretty normal as my husband and I are also “no children at parties” people and we mean no disrespect to those who have kids that we invite. So I wouldn’t worry so much about that aspect. But to only invite his brother is rude and condescending. You could go into labor at anytime in May (pending your due date ish). However the brother of your husband seems immature so I wouldn’t expect much from him. Your husband shouldn’t even question staying with you imo.

@Meghan his inviting his sisters kids but not his brother kids since we have a 3 year old little girl together. I don't think it's right at all and really messed up of him because I've known him since he was little. I don't even want him at our wedding now. I just don't wanna be a problem for him to his family.

I understand that completely! The birth of your child tops a wedding any day. You are not a problem they are and unfortunately it seems you’d have to sacrifice your sanity for their egos. It’s a very touchy situation.

I think it has nothing to do with you. People aren’t planning their life events around yours. I wouldn’t want my fiance to go but I don’t think the brother picked the date to be disrespectful to you

@Meghan that's thing I don't want to be nice about it. Doesn't seem like they care.

@Daija his brother knows when I'm due and getting induced but I thinks it's disrespectful to ask his brother to be at his wedding on a boat while I'm pregnant.

I think we assume people hold things in the same importance. I know men who think dads aren’t necessary until puberty including for birth etc. Unless you already have a bad relationship I don’t think he’s even considering you he just wants his brother there for his big day

I'm confused. If he said your kid has to be 1 to be on the cruise and she is 3, how is that not inviting her? How old are the other kids? If they want the cruise, maybe there isn't an alternative date. I'd be upset for sure, though it's on your due date. What does your husband say?

I'm not sure it's meant as disrespect, they just didn't think of you at all when planning their wedding. Our due dates and family stuff are obviously super important to us but regularly slip the minds of friends and family. We would just politely decline the invitation and send a gift.

Everyone deserve happiness people don't need spotlight

@Hannah 3 year old and our unborn child now. That's what they're doing. He said his not missing the birth he did our first one and his not gonna miss no birth.

@Caroline his soon to be wife doesn't like his family at all or any females.

@Khannie that's how his fiancee is very high maintenance and the spotlight needs to be on here.

Just calm down itll affect ur baby the decision is all with ur man who he will choose u know so just focus with ur baby ..

I think I hit option (a) by mistake. You and your kids should be the priority, and he should stay with you and the birth of both yours and his baby. It is also very upsetting that your brother in law is acting this way. I am so sorry that you have to go through this, specifically at this special moment.

Also, from reading previous comments, I am glad he is choosing to stay ❤️

@Stephie im happy he decided to stay with us. Because 3 years ago we wasn't together for the birth of our first 1 so his determined to be with me for this baby.

I meant, how old are his sisters kids? In regards to your husband, what are his opinions on his brothers wedding date? Like is he upset or anything about the timing? Does he think he did it deliberately to hurt you? Etc Also, I'm still confused about your daughter. He said your kid has to be 1. She is 3. How is she not invited? You say "around your due date"? How close to your due date? How long is the cruise?

@Hannah 3,4 and 9. He doesn't like it. His not thinking about it. He doesn't come around his family much. He doesn't consider her as my husband kids at all. Probably because she's disabled. I'm due May 28. And he doesn't know how long it'll be he just wants him there.

I'm still not understanding how she isn't invited l? When is the wedding?

@Hannah idk either. He doesn't even talk to his niece or anything Sometime in May next year.

By him saying that your kids need to be at least 1, is he talking about in the case that your baby is born prior to the wedding, trying to say you can not take a newborn, maybe? And not really referring to your 3-year-old girl? Just curious

So you are claiming she isn't invited when you actually have no idea. It sounds like she is considering there will be another 3 year old nibling, and your BIL apparently said, "Your kid has to be 1". There was an invite and you don't know the date of the wedding?

I think it is unreasonable for someone to plan their wedding based on your due date, big brother/sister in law or not. It would be hard to plan things around all the people you really want to be at your wedding. Your fiance has a mouth and can decline to attend the wedding as you are having a baby, I think that is a reasonable excuse not to attend. As for the not inviting you or your kids, that’s annoying and rude, and I would probably just ask him about the reasoning behind that.

Your fiance should be there for the birth. It's his child. The way I think about it, is a kid more important or is partying with family more important over seeing the birth of your own child? My opinion I wouldn't want to be alone during birth due to my significant others brother being insensitive and knew when you were due and planned it around your due date. You would think he would make it before your due date or a couple months after where both of you can come. Your fiance is gonna have to talk to his brother saying he can't miss his kids birth so he wouldn't be able to make it unless he switches dates

From seeing the comments, I would ask if there is a reasoning why you couldn't bring your baby with if you had the baby by then. It wouldn't be a good thing if you were on a cruise pregnant towards the end since you won't have any medical team to help you give birth that's why it's not recommended to go on boats towards the end. I think the brother and his fiance is trying to get only the brother to come with and not you or the kids. If he goes, you guys should go too but if you guys can't bring kids then that's their rules for their wedding. My cousin said no kids for her wedding. There was no kids but fewer people showed due to it because parents can't find babysitters especially with a newborn baby

@Lindsey I agree as well. Because I'm a high risk and also have to have a C-section too.

The last thing you need is to be stuck on a ship or boat and put your baby and your health at risk if you do go into labor! Not worth it.