Anyone Else?

You are very much not alone in those feelings.i would be surprised if almost everyone on this group hasn't felt like this at some point. I also find evenings really tough at times and stressed/anxious about the baby. This is my second and I can say with conviction that it gets So much better. We just have to ride out the newborn trenches. Keep reaching out to friends and family for help when you need it. Put your favourite music or podcast on when you feel stressed or down. You might also find it helpful to have a consistent song you sing and/or pattern of steps you take when rocking baby. Repetition can be really calming for you and baby. Just think every week she is getting bigger and soon she'll be giving you so much more back than she is right now. For me, witching hour stopped at 8 weeks with first and seems to be just stopping now at 7 weeks with second. By 12 weeks you should be able to start establishing proper wake windows/nap routines which will help a lot too. You're not alone in this 💗xxx

Becoming a mum is honestly the hardest thing in the world. This is my second baby and I tell everyone openly that my first absolutely broke me as a person and rebuilt me into a mum, it resulted in me being a much more patient and selfless person for my kids. It’s such a tough transition to go through, becoming a mum. You can love them more than anything in the world, yet hate certain aspects of parenting and crave your old life so badly. Don’t feel guilty! It’s such a mix of emotions. Don’t forget that physically everything has changed for you - hormones are all over the place, your body has changed, your brain increases in neuroplasticity to adapt to becoming a mum. Basically we’re all going through the ringer 😂 Witching hours are tough, I find that putting baby in the sling and dancing to my favourite music in the kitchen gets us both calm and usually puts her to sleep. Also a change in environment, moving rooms, turning a light on etc. really helps.

Also echoing above, by 12 weeks the witching hour is usually gone and things become a hell of a lot easier and more enjoyable xxx

i completely get you around the part of missing your previous life, it’s almost like we’re in a mourning phase of our previous life and we’re a whole new person now. i’m finding that part a little difficult but i’ll admit each day i’m finding it a little easier and in acceptance of it kinda thing! (don’t get me wrong i wouldn’t change having my baby for the world, he’s the best, i just didn’t realise how challenging it would be!) sending love to you and hope it gets easier soon xx

As the previous comments, I don’t think you’re alone. I would suggest over 90% of us feel it at some point. I still get tearful most days about just how relentless but also under stimulating it all it. I feel so much pressure being ‘on call’ (default parent) all of the time. We introduced some formula in the evening now to try and help me mentally. Going from independence, a busy and enjoyable career to being at home a lot combined with sleep deprivation and not knowing when you’ll feel rested again is tough! I was not prepared and I don’t think anything people could have said would have prepared me. But there are good days and bad days. That cliche saying about pushing on and some day we will wake up and realise it’s actually all okay

I dropped my whole lunch on the floor last week rushing around the kitchen trying to eat before the baby started crying again and thought about how I used to take myself for a nice lunch out that would be cooked and brought to me and not have to worry about a nappy bag. So I had a massive cry. Sometimes you need a massive cry and Deliveroo. Also like the other girlies said, your identity goes from gf/partner/wife/woman to mum and there’s a huge transition there that nothing can prepare you for. Give yourself a break you’re doing fine keeping a whole human alive. 🌟

i could not of described how i’m feeling better than this thread did!!! it’s awful and i relate to you so much! please feel free to message me and we can moan together about life🤣 xxx

Feel free to message me too I feel the exact same way. Xxx

I relate so much. My baby cries relentlessly. We treat silent reflux diagnosed by GP over the phone. My husband is back to work today and I had a tough night followed by a tough day. I am beside myself:( so you are not alone. I don't know if this is helping knowing others feel the way you do too...I hope it helps a little. Sending hugs! We just gotta keep pushing through 🙏💕

You are not alone Natalie, everything you are discussing is what goes on in our heads too. It might it be easy just now but it will get better. Stick to the routines, if you have them. The night hour our will pass, it’s just a matter of time. Everyone goes though it and you will too, be positive I know things might feel crappy at the moment but it gets better. I tried to stick to a routine at night time, between 7 and 8 was the horrid time sometimes up to even 10. I tried to stay consistent and 7pm feed and in to bed, try white noise play lists on Spotify, that really helped me, also the sheep that you get that makes a shuuuuu should (I can’t remember the name of it) it helped me, as I just didn’t have the vocal cords to keep shuuuushing. You need to allow your self time and if you are a bit of a bad time or just getting used to things of course you are not going to love every aspect of it, but I am sure with time you will love it. You just need to allow your self time time 💕

@Zhana you can also get medication to help if gets difficult, a lot of babies have them, you might be offered omeprazol, you can speak to your GP but it’s entirely up to you. I found that it helps my one a lot

Thank you girls, your support means more than you could ever know 🩷🩵

Please reach out to your GP and discuss this with them as you can get referred to the perinatal mental health team, I’m going through the same thing x