Toddler still BF loads and doesn't eat much

Hi, anyone else still got a toddler that BFs loads including to sleep and multiple times in the night and doesn't seem to eat much? I just feel like we should have progressed from this and I'm not sure if I need to try and do something about it or if it's still within the realms of what's biologically normal? He hardly eats some days, I always try and offer drinks or snacks when he asks to BF but it rarely works. The only thing he would consistently eat is packaged snacks 🙈 Some days he will eat ok but we are nowhere near the 3 meals plus 2 snacks that is always mentioned. I just wonder if the BF is hindering his solids as that's what HV said, but I don't know what to do. He gets so upset when I refuse and I wanted weaning off BF to be as gentle as possible and not traumatic! But I also want him to eat more solids. Anyone in a similar situation? Just feel a bit alone now he's nearly 2 and a few friends have stopped BF now.

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Exactly the same position, he goes to the childminders 3 days a week and manages fine 9-5 there, and when we’re out and about he won’t ask but if we’re home he asks to feed constantly. He probably eats one good meal a day plus snacks. Also wakes anywhere between 2 to a million times a night to feed 😂 I’m becoming a bit frustrated by it but I just know he’s not ready to stop and it would be an absolute nightmare. I really feel like it’s 100% biologically normal but there just isn’t that many people still feeding this far down the line and that can make us feel like there’s something wrong x

We are in a similar situation! And the same with the packaged snacks.

Could have written the post myself. I try to reassure myself that WHO recommend breast feeding till 2 years and beyond for a reason so it can't be doing him harm and if he's not ready, I'm not ready. I do however plan to invest in some bf weaning books for his 2nd birthday in the hope they might start to help gently ease him off

Thank you this is reassuring! @Evie snap he's at nursery 3 days no problem whatsoever, I went in in the afternoon for a little Christmas session last week and it's the first thing he asked for when he saw me 🙈 @Gemma same here I've been looking at some books too, booby moon and loving comfort. He doesn't say booby though and don't really want to teach him that word 🤣 Yeah I try tell myself about the WHO and try and just go with the flow but it gets to me some days and I start doubting everything. He didn't eat any tea tonight, but then randomly about 8pm was asking for food and had yoghurt, cheese, milk and avocado on lentil crackers, go figure! 🙈

That was my toddler until last Saturday. He accidentally ate a spicy crisp and didnt like it. Took the opportunity to tell him the boob was spicy and he hasnt fed since. His dad has also doing the night wakes since then and so far he hasnt breasfed for 5 days. This is a baby who cosleeps and fed a million times a night. I honestly couldnt believe he weaned so easily. My goal was to go until he is 2 next month but the feeding all night is giving him cavities because the breastmilk is sweet and sits on his teeth at night.

@Karen oh wow can't believe he stopped just like that! Maybe I'll tell him my milk has turned to broccoli 🥦 or something 🤣 We still haven't been to dentist yet should probably go, but I've read a lot about it being a myth about breastfeeding and cavities as the milk doesn't swill around their mouth like it would if drinking from a cup?

@Laura 😂😂 I was shocked too. Yeah try the brocolli. You never know. These kids will shock you.

SAME. I try to remember that many cultures breastfeed until 3-4ish so there’s nothing wrong with it for the kid, but for mamas it can be exhausting to cope with sleep deprivation for that long! At the same time, I’m attached to it too. Tough one.

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