Is this normal?

Im a first time mom with a 11mo boy & for a lil over a month now I’ve noticed that he’s pretty aggressive. He hits/slaps, bites, and will throw his toys either at me or just in general. I try to correct him and tell him “no!” In a raised stern voice and usually when he’s told no he will cry and throw himself down. But when it comes to his aggression & being told no he will just keep hitting, biting, & throwing things at me. I’m not sure how else to correct this behavior. Is this normal for babies around his age? I’m a stay at home mom so he doesn’t go to daycare where he could be exposed to that kind of behavior. Any advice is appreciated.
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My almost 11 m old daughter is in a biting phase, also trying to teach “no”

something i saw recently was that it's easier for kids to understand when you want them to do something vs when you don't want them to. so basically, redirection. I (personally) would refrain from saying no, but rather say something like "this hurts mommy. let's (insert activity) instead." do yall spend plenty of time outside where he can expend some energy?

11 months is a bit young to understand no. My 8 month hits every so often and what i do is i take his hand and say "that hurts we have to be gentle" while touching his face gently and then holding his hand to my face where he slapped and saying "see gentle mama likes gentle touches" my voice is low and steady, raised voice scares little ones the most and just causes more screaming

My 11 months old son does the same exact same thing (hitting and slapping) but boys are typically aggressive at the age according to our podiatrist that we see because he’s premature. Between 1 and half to 2 years is when they understand “No” (I usually say , “that’s not nice or it hurts mama”) even though they probably still won’t listen until around 3-4 (according to our doctor. ) NOT ME. So I would personally say don’t stress and keep teaching him like you already are and he’ll definitely catch on. You’re doing great mama ❤️

I tell him no and move him somewhere else or stop him in the act and say no . My son will cry and go elsewhere after or just stop and find something else he does understand what no means because he will usually repeat the same actions and constantly moving him from it lets him know that he’s not supposed to be doing it. He doesn’t hit but he bites and I’ll put his pacifier in there and it’s redirecting it to something else . He likes to try and play in the toilet so I move him say no playing in the toilet now I see him heading I say no toilet and he will immediately turn around. Idk it works for me I know a lot of people don’t recommend saying no to them but for my son it’s necessary. lol or he will do it because just moving him away he think we are playing lol

Same Lml

They don’t really understand at that age. What I heard to do is redirection and how u say it. So say they r jumping on the couch u would say the couch is for sitting. When u say something like no dont don’t do that they usually just hear the end of it do that. I’d try saying it differently then redirect his attention

My son was the same at that age maybe a month later. Lasted a couple months. It shocked me. He is better now 😅 hopefully it’s just a phase

I got my education in early childhood development- redirection and modeling work better than saying no. no to what? it’s not really something he can understand at that age. also it is quite a normal behavior that most kids grow out of no need for concern at this stage but it sure can be frustrating. sending love & patience xx

Its absolutely normal and they have no concept of hurting so they don't even know they're hurting you. Redirect to high fives

It’s normal! Don’t give it attention. Be calm and neutral when speaking. If he throws, take the object and remove it and redirect him. Biting and hitting I’m dealing with with my 18 month old as well as pinching, it’s been 6 months and he still does it, but you honestly just have to ignore it, he’s doing it MUCH LESS since I started giving it as minimal reaction as I possibly can. If he hurts me, I put him down. If he hurts someone else, I remove him and turn my attention to the other person. Let him cry, let him be mad. He has to learn that those behaviors will not get him the attention he wants. When he is being sweet be EXTRA over the top with praise and attention. My son gives cuddles and hugs and when he does I TOTALLY lean into it. He does those way more now.

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