My husband told me to go somewhere
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@Lona maybe it’s the same generation? It’s ridiculous 😭 I don’t even get to go to the bathroom alone or eat a hot meal because I’m constantly doing everything for our child 🤦🏼♀️
It’s the same with mine too. Even though I also work full time and pay the bills so mine has literally no excuse. Stick him between two crying babies for 2 minutes and he’s fed up
I am so confused as husband and mother. He supposed to be helping you out anytime
@Monica he walks in from work and not even home 5 mins and he’s annoyed by our toddler waking up from nap. Not my fault 🤦🏼♀️ Our child was an easy going baby and never cried unless tired or hungry and is still that way as a toddler and he just doesn’t get how easy we do have it. It’s ridiculous. He clearly misses his freedom and life before our child wayy too much
@Omalicha welp, he doesn’t. I get an attitude anytime I ask for help yet he always tells me to ask for help. No winning
I’ve just come to the conclusion it’s how men are programmed and raised at this point cause most men either leave or put all the house work and child care on the mother even if she had a job I’m a stay at home mom and my son is 6 months old I’m 11 weeks and 6 days pregnant with my second baby and my man does try to help but the moment the baby starts crying or needs his butt changed or is hungry he gets handed to me. My man is currently locked up over some bs from back in 2020 because of his ex as much as I know it’s hard on both of us I’m hoping he will take the time to realize just how much the babies need him too and it can’t all just be put on me
@Rebecca I don’t do any housework. He does it thankfully but I’m solely responsible for our child and our child alone. I’m sorry you’re going through that. Men only change if they want to. He of course acted like he wasn’t an asshole and just threw his hand down my pants. I asked him what he was doing and he said “I’m putting my hand down your pants. I’m allowed” so I called him out for being an asshole all night and acting like nothing ever happened per usual. He stormed off and took our child to shower and then bed. I know he’ll act the same way whenever he wakes up too
Marriage counseling?
@Daphne he won’t go. He won’t even go to therapy for himself
Yeah men are dumb sometimes. We had to do couples counseling after our first baby I actually made him go. It helped him understand where I was coming from. Because he couldn’t understand why I wanted him home with me on the weekends after I was home with the baby all week alone and all he wanted to do on the weekends was go play golf all day 🙃 We don’t have problems like that anymore but sometimes his empathy just isn’t really there
@Monica mine has zero friends. I have just the ones from HS and 2 I met through work through the years. He doesn’t like when we’re both home because our toddler is like a rabid raccoon he says 🤷🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ I do agree our child does act completely different when we’re both home and I think it’s the competition for my attention from both of them (my husband and toddler) I want to turn off my phone one day and just leave and see how it makes him feel
Girl, if he wants to say go somewhere, then go somewhere. Like he thinks that's a power move to get a point across? Okay, sis. Go to the gym. Go buy yourself a new shirt and bring something back for the toddler if you're in the mood. We can't expect them to know the ins and outs of what we do/deal with every day. If my man told me to go somewhere, you bet your ass I will. Make a schedule for yourself for your sanity. It could literally just be a drive to the gas station. Being a mom gave me bucket loads of anxiety and granted I'm medicated for everyone's sake but it will consume you if you let it. Don't let it. ❤️❤️ Hugs momma.
@Erin thank you 🫶🏻 I ended up locking myself in my baby’s room that night for a few hours. You’re right though. I should leave next time he says it.
Why can’t you leave him?
Do we have the same husband? I got thru the same shit with my husband every single day. It’s like us mothers can never get a break or relax. It’s such a problem if we lay down or go on our phone for a second.