My husband is stressing me out

He want to stay with his dad for Christmas and last year I had a really bad year with our 4 daughter that have to had surgery and she was in hospital for 1 month and a half this time as this year and it really hard for me because we didn’t know if she was gong make that surgery anyways his nan die this year and he want to stay with his dad again but it all the time he always want to stay in his dad every Christmas we never had just the 6 of us he always promise me that we would have a Christmas just us but he keep saying because his dad have no one sure his other son lives with him and his gf sometimes stays with him to but anyways am so so stress out I try talking to him I had to buy the kids Christmas present again this year by myself no help what so ever and I buy him alot stuff to and he only buy me some stuff but I don’t care but I only want have just Christmas just us 6 but he always want his family am really upset 😢

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Can you invite the dad and girlfriend for a set time window Christmas day? I wanted just our family but had to resort to giving my parents 3-7pm Christmas day and made clear they have to go at 7pm as we are flying the next day. Or suggest going to dad Christmas eve and 26th so that you can have Christmas day with your 6. Maybe even ask the dad directly and explain its important to you if your husband is too cowardly to even approach it? Most families alternate which family they do xmas day with and having every 3rd Xmas with just your household is totally reasonable and dad should understand. Point out most people do this

Lol his dad has one son LIVING with him? So he's not alone on Christmas. Just say no.

I try talking to him and he got mad at me all the time with me when I say it to him and he said o my dad mum die and I say I know that but like i didn’t see my other 3 kids for Christmas because I was in the hospital with our new born baby like he just get mad at me

I’m so sorry, that’s really hard. Most families alternate because that’s fair.

It was really hard for me without my other 3 kids I was so upset but I don’t think how my husband don’t understand about what going on with my head to like

But his dad at the hospital and he still want to go to his dads my husband wants me to cook dinner for his brother and his girlfriend and her kids like am already stressed out and he don’t listen to me I just don’t know what to do anymore

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