In-laws

Does anyone else’s in-laws only make effort to come and see your children when your step kids are there? My in-laws only make effort to come and see us/ arrange anything when my partners kids from a previous relationship are here. The kids stay with us every other weekend and then we have 2 kids together that obviously live with us full time. This has caused many arguments and fragmentations within the family as she’s also a believer in our lives should pause when the step kids aren’t here to the point my partner and I do not discuss plans with them that don’t involve the step kids as they get very funny. It upsets me as our children together are 2mths and 19mths and they’ve only seen my partners parents probably 6 times in their life and it’s all been whilst the step kids are there so they get no fuss or effort it’s all about the step kids.

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Mine isn’t born yet and in-laws have made plans to come visit when SC is here.

@Lora see the first time they met our babies I put my foot down and said it’s just to be them, that’s the whole point in them coming round - to meet the baby. But there’s been no other times they’ve said they will pop round and see our kids and the first thing they ask on the phone is about the step kids and when we’ve got them next. But note I have the worlds worst mother in law that has never welcomed me in to the family, just didn’t think they would treat my children the same.

I’m the opposite MIL loves me and truly dislikes BM, yet SC is put on a pedestal from all the children in in-laws family and massively overcompensated for.

Yessss!! All the time! They play favourites too which I hate. But I don’t stand for it anymore.

Mine never sees my children but will actively go and see my SD at her mums I think it's so cheeky but mine aren't missing out, she is

@Peer95 100% the stance I take, but this would really upset me with her going to meet the ex

Absolutely, especially when she talks shit about her but they're actually so similar personality wise We let them get on with it

Mine said "it doesn't matter when there this young... they don't remember" my LG is 13 months. if the MIL does anything for my LG she makes it out like it's an effort but will do anything for my SS. Where as my mum wants to help both my LG and SS. 1 big family

I always thought it was because then they get to see all of their grandchildren at the same time. X

Thank god I’m not the only one, my partner gets messages all the time off his siblings “ have you got the boys this weekend” and if he says yes they will make plans if he says no they just leave it, we have a 19 month old and another baby on the way it drives me insane and I’m going to end up just stopping my children seeing that side of the family all together x

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