Partner is so miserable and grumpy all the time (step dad to my child)
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How long have you been together and how old is your daughter?
@Charlotte this has been going on for a while and I was happy before it started being like this. I often think about what you said about am I happy about my daughter growing up and seeing our relationship and I honestly don’t know. My previous relationship was abusive and although my current partner isn’t abusive he just isn’t “nice” all the time It’s really hard
@Lydia we’ve been together 2 years my daughter is 3
That wouldn't work for me, honestly. I'd be gone!
I’d want someone to love my child, not necessarily as their own, but love them like how they love me. I would always expect my partner to treat someone he loves with respect and kindness etc etc don’t get me wrong my husband has his moments of moaning and not being nice but he would always recognise that he’s just stressed and taking it out on me … so I think it depends on your relationship really like is this really love or ? That’s how I feel anyway cos if you love someone you will make sure to help as much as you can and not want to see someone upset and help take on their struggles or responsibilities as a team
It’s emotional abuse and frankly, you shouldn’t be in a relationship with this person. From experience, I married someone that says the exact same things and it only gets worse. Leave while you can
I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I have 2 questions for you. Are you happy? And is the kind of relationship you want your daughter growing up under? What would you say if it was her telling you all this... He may not be her dad, but he took that responsibility on when he began a relationship with you and he should absolutely therefore be helping to take care of her. My brother is a step dad and to anyone on the outside, he is her dad, you wouldn't know otherwise.