AITA

I don’t think anyone is the asshole, it’s just two different parenting styles. I’ve seen people say they let toddlers have a choice and face the consequences of that choice, like if he chose jumper you’d still bring the coat with you and he can wear it when he realises he’s cold. But at the end of the day, he’s your child and your mum shouldn’t be mad at you over how you wish to parent your child.

I understand the ‘gentle parenting’ and ‘natural consequences’ but children need to learn that there are rules, and if you’ve told the child that this is the safe and healthy way and they need to do as they are told parents have the right to enforce their rules (the world has laws, and they shouldn’t get a choice to follow those, it’s a similar boundary) your mother sounds more permissive and that gives children a not so realistic view on how rules work outside of the world

I dont think either of you are in the wrong, but she should have just left you to do what you want to do. Personally, I would have given him the same choice as your mum did but still take the jacket with me knowing that he would get cold and want to wear it.

I agree with others saying it’s just a difference in parenting style. We would have given the choice like your mom. We set boundaries in other areas of parenting but fighting over putting a coat on is not something I’m going to power struggle with my child over and they’ll never be forced to put a coat on in the real world unless under their own volition because they’re cold so things like this where it won’t be something enforced in the real world and is just a power struggle , not worth it to us. He can learn it’s cold outside and we will bring the jacket cause he’s gonna want it pretty soon after refusal once we get outside 😂

Is this 31 degrees Fahrenheit or Celsius??

@Elena Fahrenheit

I wouldn't force my daughter to put on a coat right away, but she hardly gets/feels cold... I'd just take it with me and check her often. But noone is the asshole here

@Mary Alice exactly. I definitely didn’t get this side of her when I was a kid 😂 my kids are literally spoiled by her which is fine she’s grandma and my kids love her, but we definitely clash like this at times..

Oh that’s freezing! You’re the parent so whatever you says goes essentially x

Your Mum should have accepted that’s what you want to do and left it at that. I admit that I would’ve given the choice but purely because I have a very strong willed child and he needs to feel like he made the decision. With a choice he would’ve worn that coat, without a choice he would’ve put his foot down and made it way more difficult than it needs to be. But we know our kids and it’s up to us how we do things.

I wouldn’t have given the choice but your the parent your mum should be following what you say not the other way round

YOU are the mother. End of story.

It’s your child. Whatever you say is law. I understand she was trying to help but she also has to understand that this is your child. If she wants to be mad now, that’s on her

It’s typically the opposite for me. Kids can’t wear jackets in the car seats.. so I usually go with a sweater. And bring the jacket. I’ll typically only put the jacket on my daughter if we’ll be outside for awhile.. or we’ll just rush inside. Because honestly.. it takes way longer to take the jacket off or put it on than it does to walk in or out of the store/home. But I always get rude comments on why my daughter doesn’t have a jacket on.. or a hat.. or whatever else.

Uhm it’s your child? Not hers? Who gives a shit if it’s different parenting styles, if MOM says the toddler needs the coat then GRANDMA can deal. And if grandma wants to have a tantrum like the toddler over mom making the parenting choice for HER child then that’s fine, but it doesn’t make mom the asshole it makes grandma the asshole.