i’m struggling :(
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It took this incident for my partner to take some leave ( few days) just so I could reset and get some sleep, and I pushed myself into my local areas classes where the health visitors sometimes went and asked questions /support when I needed
Oh sweetheart I just want to give you a big hug! Just from reading this I can tell you’re not a rubbish mum you’re doing everything you can for your little one! It’s scary at first and it is a lot to adjust too, especially with not having family close by! I was the exact same when my boy was that age! Just take it a day by day! You’ve got this! If you miss going out the social side of it or adult conversations, baby groups are always great to get out for an hour usually a weekly session and just build up from that! If you ever need a mum friend or someone to listen you’re welcome to message me! :)
Hey! How you're feeling is completely valid ❤️ My daughter is 7.5mo now but I remember when she was born I was exhausted and hormonal so I cried constantly, then would feel guilty for crying. I almost felt like I was mourning the loss of that selfish side of me that didn't have to worry about anyone else. But I promise it does get better! Next time your partner is home, take a few hours to yourself. Go for a long nap and do something you enjoy. Exhaustion makes everything feel so much worse. If your LO is unsettled, it could be that his tummy is uncomfortable. Have you spoken to the doctor about this? We had to give our daughter infacol before every feed and colief drops in her bottle. In my area, the health visitor does baby groups so it's worth looking around. It may be good for you to get out and speak to others who are likely feeling the same as you xx
Also, if you're feeling overwhelmed, it's okay to put the baby in a safe place and leave the room for a few minutes. Crying won't hurt him and you'll be able to gather your thoughts and go back in with a fresh outlook xx
I feel you my boy is 5 weeks and I’ve had a few days where I just cry and get overwhelmed. I want to do normal things too like get my hair cut or nails done and feel like my independence has gone but then I remember why it’s cos I have a beautiful little boy and he won’t always want/need me so I’m making the most of it. Talk to your partner and see if he can have baby while you take a break. What we are feeling is normal. Feel free to message me if you want to chat x Also my boy hasn’t slept through the night yet x
Please be kind to yourself most babies will NOT sleep through that young, and some don’t until they’re around 9-11months. Babies aren’t meant to sleep through from such a young age, they’re constantly developing and their brain is going wild!
I’m sorry to hear your struggling motherhood is hard sometimes and I’m sure mums closer to your babies age may comment and help here but I’ll help where I can ( mines 1 now ) but maybe a baby group can help you with mums and babies similar age for support. You sound like you need some rest and reset. Baby will no doubt be picking up your vibes and there are so many reasons at this stage that baby may not be settling so it’s easier to eliminate one thing at a time. If you have no family does your partner have any more leave where he can help just while you reset and get some support networks in ? I can’t recall if 7 weeks I was under midwife or health visitor but do they have networks that can support you ? If it helps early on my baby had acid reflux I was so tired my reactions so thing were delayed and I broke down to 999 when I had to force her poo out due to constipation all relating to the milk she was having. I broke down, I had no family near me and my partner was working alot.