Am I wrong?

So my MIL have always had our issues however now that I have my own son I refuse to hold my tongue anymore. My partner was joking around with me on thanksgiving around his family saying that he can’t wait until our son is a bit older so he can go for rides on his stepdads Harley to which I had laughed about saying yeah right because he knows that due to things in my past I was very adamant about him not being influenced to be intrigued by motorcycles… however my MIL hearing this still decided to buy a Harley Davidson rideable rocker for him saying to my son and I quote “ grandma doesn’t care what mommy says you can ride on a Harley” obviously disobeying my rules and boundaries I have set for my child. So I have decided to tell her that any presents in the future she wants to buy for my child she must run through me first or it can stay at her house because he barely goes over there. Am I wrong for thinking this way? Or am I right to think this way?

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Your child your rules, end of conversation. She doesn't like it she can get in line or kick rocks. I have a feeling she'll be doing a lot of rock-kicking

I agree that MIL shouldn’t have said what she said or bought something outside of what your boundaries were, but allowing the pain you experienced in your past to bleed over to your son can be harmful. It’s definitely ok to make sure he’s safe and knows all of the safety precautions of riding a motorcycles and even opening up to (age appropriate) about what happened to you, but just trying to keep it from him or even instilling a fear may make things harder for him in adulthood.

@Anima🪷 see that’s exactly what I was thinking. I could care less to what she has done to me in the past or I could care less that she just doesn’t care about my feelings and my wishes however if I have to separate my son from her for his safety then that’s what I will do.

@Anima🪷 I agree. It could have adverse effects and make him really intrigued by them because she doesn’t want him to have anything to do with them. But your MIL doesn’t respect your boundaries.

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