My SIL Shamed my daughter for lifting her dolls dress.

It’s just a doll - is your SIL okay…?

It’s just a doll….my daughter loves to get her babies naked but never does it in public so we let it happen

Umm what? I use my daughter’s dolly to try and demonstrate potty training. Why would she shame her tickling her dolly🤦‍♀️

Honestly, we would scrap.

I worked at a daycare for 8 years and the first thing the kids did when we got new dolls in was take the clothes off of them.. there’s nothing wrong with that. Kids learn and she was probably just surprised that the doll had on underwear like she does. Your SIL needs help..

@LeKenya yeah we’ve been potty training and we talk about where things come from and how she needs to wear underwear now.

@Olivia honestly that’s smart using a doll for potty training. I’ve just been talking about how we are wearing underwear now.

@LeKenya honestly this isn’t the first incident like this. I was changing my son’s diaper in front of her and she took my daughter out of the room and said to her she didn’t need to see his privates and that it was “shameful”. I’m not one to get worked up over words but this one is certainly winding me up.

Whattt it's natural to be curious, I despise this behaviour it teaches that there's shame in bodies and leads to negative body image. You're sister is behaving like she was lifting a humans dress and doing this. My kids strip dolls off completely.....your sister would condemn us to hell. It's healthy

@Sarah 🎀 I'm shocked something deeper is triggering your sister's behaviour. Myself and children get dressed in the same room, we openly discuss the differences between boys and girls and yes we use anatomically correct language.

She seems to have a lot of internal “shame” and projecting. Is she ok?

@Anita I’m on the same page as what you do with your kids. I just want my kids to be secure in their bodies and also safe enough to tell me anything should something happen. She’s made claims that her first husband harmed her but she’s also being pretty religious recently.

@Emma I just don’t know. She makes claims about her husband harming her so maybe she feels ashamed that it happened. She has become very religious recently too

Omg your SIL is giving vibes of those crazy people from game of thrones! I wouldn’t let my kids be around someone like that

That woman!!!

@Kathryn 🤣 I needed that. Thank you.

What a nut job

Our parts are shameful?! That’s some internal misogyny right there. No one’s body parts are shameful, I’m sure Elsa had nice pretty princess knickers on too. The issue here is her. Sexualising behaviour, shaming a child at play and teaching a girl that her body parts are to be hidden and not looked at.

Does this SIL have kids of her own?

@Brittany she has two, a boy and a girl.

I may be wrong but I get the feeling she is from a different culture? Or maybe religion? Doesn’t excuse the behaviour but all the gods seem to shame women 🙄

SIL needs to fucking chill!

@Sarah 🎀 if she acts like this with her own daughter I bet she’ll grow up hating her.

Is she South Asian by any chance? I can see how upsetting this would be. Just so you know, "shame-shame", is often used like a noun/code for kids in South Asia to indicate private parts for both boys and girls, and not to expose them because it's their privacy. It's not meant to be a humiliating choice of words but depending on sensibilities can have that effect. And she really unnecessarily leaned into it with the "shame on you".

@April she’s Indian and has recently become pretty religious.

@Brittany I’ve never heard her say something like this to her own daughter but if she’s comfortable enough to say it to someone else’s kid ten I’m sure she says some wild things in private.

@Zara yeah she’s Indian. I didn’t know this.

I was just about to say it must be a cultural/religious thing and was going to ask where she was from. Such a shame certain cultures/religions teach you to think in this toxic way. At some point you’ll probably have to set some boundaries with her bc it won’t be the last time or last thing she comments on. Or when your daughter is old enough you’ll spend your life explaining away her aunts comments and why they are wrong.

Would make me suspicious of SIL tbh if she went that crazy over your daughter playing with a doll like what is she implying? Children are naturally curious and are also innocent so she was doing nothing wrong and definitely not 'shameful'. Wouldn't be seeing her in a long time, if ever

She’s a toddler kids are always curious of everything your sil needs to mind her business and chill because it wasn’t that deep it’s just a toy, like is she okay? Lol she should be ashamed of herself for coming at a child like that shameeee