In laws

Just a rant.. and maybe opinion. My partners parents live as a big family in the house and there is a 2 year old that always seems to be ill. Every time they due to visit someone is ill and they starting to feel poorly too so I get a message asking if it’s still okay for them to come. I say no as I would rather him not get ill and definitely not during winter season.. anyways thought nothing of it as she asked and I was nice about it. Then my partner tells me his dad has mentioned it to him saying we can’t put baby in a bubble wrap and he needs to be exposed to those things 😅 (partner has my back) am I over reacting keeping them away when they poorly ? He’s 4 months and I know he will get a cold at some point but why would I willingly expose him to that right ?

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It has happened a few times but they always seem to be ill 😂

They are asking so I think they need to be ok with you saying no! Baby is also still quite young. You have to do what you’re comfortable with!

At 4 months, it’s Christmas and you want to enjoy your time off with a new baby. I’d be saying no. I’m a busy mum and although my baby is a lot older, I appreciate they will catch things, I’m not going to encourage getting sick for the sake of it. They pick up enough when they go to nursery without having to do it for “immunity” at 4 months. My view is if people aren’t worried about their point of view being unpopular, neither should you. It’s your baby xx

At the end of the day, if your LO gets ill then they are not the ones who have to care for him 24/7 and face the struggles of the illness, this is what they need to understand and respect your choice. I'm in a similar situation with my grandma, she lives with my parents (sometimes I can't avoid going around), she currently has a chest infection and has been told that she is not allowed to hold my LO until she is fully better but she continues to try push her luck only to be told no and then she goes off in a mood.......she will get over it

Definitely not overreacting with a 4 months old. I would feel different a bit older. After 2 years old, kids have to be more exposed indeed.

If baby was older I would say it’s not that deep for them to come but 4 months is not very old and immune system isn’t that strong yet so I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. Also it’s winter and there’s so much going around, don’t need to increase the chances of baby catching something by having sick people come round. His parents should respect your decision. If they didn’t think it’s a bad thing they wouldn’t have even bothered to ask but they did so they know there’s a chance you would’ve said no. Just ignore them

They’re being ridiculous. Your baby still doesn’t have a fully developed immune system. Avoiding knowingly exposing him to illness isnt bubble rap, it’s sensible

No you’re not overreacting at all. It doesn’t matter if your child is 4 months or 4 years, you have the right to tell people not to visit. I have a 2 year old and a 2 month old and don’t like people around either one of them if they’re ill. Tbh I don’t like to be around people if they’re not well and I’m 33!

We had everyone wear a mask till my daughter was 9 months. She didn’t get sick for the first time till she was 13 months and it was MILD. She’s currently sick (15.5m) because we made the mistake of staying at a family event even though some of the other kids were coughing and sneezing & now we’re all sick🙄 she is still mild compared to my husband and I. There is no need to rush being exposed to every little germ out there. And there is nothing wrong with being careful and not wanting your child to be sick.

Thank you everyone! Like I was sticking with my decision as he’s my priority but it’s nice to hear I am not over doing it x x

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